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writes:I was flirting with this guy whos a bit older (in his late 20s). We met recently and stuff moved really fast. We were about to start dating but TBH he was starting to be a dick so when he asked me out I said no (nicely) and when he pressed me I explained that I felt he was too blunt. He plays the guitar and writes songsThen his friends asked me why I didn't go out with him and I told him he wasn't so nice. I think they told him about that because they have told me he named his latest song after me and is going to play it at his next gig :eek: I asked them if it was written about me too but they said no, but it's called (my first name). They said he was really angry, he felt I led him on and didn't like having his personality criticised but at the same time I was his type (tall, blonde etc.) so not to take it personallyI'm really freaked out, would I be overreacting to delete him on Facebook and not speak to him again etc.? I have never dated a musician before too, is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2016): Yeah, so you were his type because of your looks, doesn't sound like the start to a great relationship. Don't turn up the gig just ignore him as you do not want to date him after all.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 January 2016):
 I think someone told him (more than once) that musicians score easily with the ladies, no matter what. So he is trying this obnoxious attitude (which might be who he is or might be the "persona" he wants people to think he is) and was expecting you to go wild for his attention and jump for joy when he asked you out...
Instead? You noticed that he really isn't a very nice lad and that you are NOT really interested in him after all.
He thought being an older guy with a "rockstar" dream would make you disregard any bad manners and go for it, because you are younger and thus less experienced.
And isn't that what people do when they first meet someone ? They talk, they flirt and if there is interest on BOTH ends they go out and MAYBE, they make it work as a relationship. Sometimes they don't.
Doesn't mean you STRUNG him along.
GOOD for you for not wanting to date a guy who isn't really treating you right.
As for him using your name in his song? Eh, I'd take that with a HUGE grain of salt. To me it sounds like a line. Is your name REALLY uncommon? If so it could be the name worked vocally and if it's very common.. well, it could really be any chick with that name. But whatever gets the girls to drop their panties might be his thinking.
Seem to me that he isn't into YOU as a person, but how you looks. Which means whatever he feels is quite superficial.
Block/un-friend if you want to. You don't owe him squat.
Even if he DID write a song about you, so what?
Listen to that little voice that told you, this guy is not someone I want to date seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2016): He's being melodramatic - naming a song after you because you didn't want to be with him is pretty pathetic. Music probably is his outlet but actually it shows even more that he's not the nicest guy and you did the right thing! If he loves himself so much that he can't take some criticism about how he came across (which could possibly help him in the future) then so be it.
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