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writes:I recently moved a guy into my house that i didnt even know. The first day i met him he moved in with me. He told me he wanted to be with me and stuff and i am a sucker for beleiveing stuff like this stupid i no but ive always been the same. When he first moved in the first couple days were good. He had all these plans and stuff about the future and that. Since the first night he hasnt came anywhere near me at all its a struggle for him to even sleep in same bed as me. we had sex the first night but since then nowt has happened nowt intimate at all not even a cuddle and its been 3 wks now. some folk would prob fink this is awrite but im used to intimacy. when i try to talk to him he just starts an arguement tryin to say im makin it all about me that i dont understand wot hes goin thro. He split with his ex 5 wks before he met me and he was with her 6 yrs so i can kinda understand how its hard for him cos i no he stil loves her. he hasnt told any of his family where he is he even tells sum of his mate, mainly female, that he is still single even tho i cant go anywhere without him and even wen i talk to my male friends he gets all jealous and starts arguements and yes this has only been 3 wks!!!! im at my wits end. hes only been here 3 wks as i said and already im in a grand debt tryin to keep the both eh us afloat. he does nowt but drink my moni down the drain. i cant leave moni lyin around my house anymore for the fear hes gonna spend it on drink. i do like him and can see a future but i dont fink he'l change. people keep tellin me hes usin me cos hes nowhere else to go. his family dont really talk to him and he was stayin in a guest house wen i first met him. i dont no wot to do, can anyone give me sum advice cos i really dont no wot to do anymore. his attitude and the way he makes me feel is terrible. can anyone help??
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 October 2009):
"...i do like him and can see a future but i dont fink he'l change..."
How can you like him or see a future with him? You've known him three weeks and he's obviously using you. Of course he's not going to change, again you've known him for 3 weeks and he's already shown you who he is!!!
I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be rude and I know this is quite blunt--but open your eyes! He's not intimate with you because he just wants a place to stay. He hooked up with you the first time because that's all it was and now you're just roomates. He's totally leeching off of you, kick him out ASAP!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2009):
I fear that Starfairy has it right. You seem like a lovely girl who has been used buy a guy who saw you were kind. There is one bit of advice here that I can offer, and that's to split from him now before he causes you even more pain and trouble.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (28 October 2009):
 This might sound harsh but it seems to me he was taking advantage of someone a bit naive and trusting, and was looking for a place to stay and someone to rebound with as he only just broke up with his ex.
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