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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:okay this kid and I were talking for about seven months but we werent exclusive! a few days before my birthday we hung out and remind you we barely see each other, but when we do we dont waste a minute, but the last time we hung out we didnt have sex, but the day went perfectly fine and we did other stuff, we just didnt go all the way. afterwards he bought me food and took me home we were texting and everything till about noon the next day. this kid is the love of my life and i know for a fact he loves me but about 4 days after we hung out i noticed he deleted me off of facebook and we havent talked in a few days.So i sent him a message expressing my feelings and telling him how much i need to focus on myself and he told me that i needed to move on.He seemed pretty upset that we didnt have sex (not to mention we never got that far before) and he told me it's not worth it anymore because of it, I told him it was because he doesn't use condoms. because its the truth! 'He told me to suck it up and move on. This was only a few weeks ago. yesterday i found out a girl that he's been talking to who's friends with one of my friends, but i dont know her personally.I knew about her before hand but he said she was nothing. I asked about me and him and he told her that he still loved me and he will always have room in his heart for me. But the thing is, that same day after we hung out he also had sex all the way, with her. Yet when i sent him that message he tried saying i was attempting to get with his friend. Now i should have seen this coming, but i want to know if i should message him and ask him about it or wait it off?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 Saying something and MEANING it are not necessarily the same. Never ever mind what they SAY- mind what they DO.
This kid has been treating you appallingly, and that's all it counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2013): okay im the girl that wrote this question and i might have left alot of things out, this kid might be using me as a sex toy but if i was just that why would he talk about how much he loves me to other girls i just dont get that, im driving my self crazy.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (11 January 2013):
 I'm very glad you didn't have unprotected sex with him.
Why do you say that he loves you? His actions say that he doesn't love you. If he's telling you he loves you he's either a liar or doesn't know what love means.
He just wants sex. He won't get it from you and therefore he has no use for you. Sorry.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (11 January 2013):
Ask what,wait it off what ?
He could not have been clearer if he had made a drawing for you. You don't put out and don't give him unprotected sex = you are out of the game, he moves at speed light to the next available female. After which, he deletes you off Facebook, tells you to move on , and to suck it up.
Really, what has he got to do more than that, to convince you he does not want you ( and does not respect you ) ;...hit you with a baseball bat ?
Let all this messy episode go, and in future try to be more discriminating in your choices, even among teenagers, who think with their penis by definition, there are tons more sensitive and decent than your ex.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (11 January 2013):
Message him for what? Wait it off for what? What is the end goal here? You have to be careful you aren't being manipulated by your own feelings where you feel like you deserve a truth or more from him. He has his own priorities as far as girls go and you need to understand that he does not want the things that you want.
You should let him go and indeed focus on your own life because you could be spending this time looking for someone who will treat you will respect and as a young lady, assuming of course that this is how you would want to be treated. He will only tell you things that you want to her but reality is a different story with him. You need to step back a bit and see things more objectively.
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