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writes:I have been sleeping with a man for awhile now and recently he just up and vanished after we exchanged X-mas gifts. This isn't the first time this has happened. The first time he was gone for 6 months and said he had to re-group himself. he has been gone for a month now and in my heart I feel there is another women involved. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): Change the locks and your phone number and move if you can. No seriously, i wouldnt put up with that, so the next time you meet up with him, ask him what he is playing at. Then tell him it is all over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): You ask what you should do? Well if a guy I was dating walked out of my life without a word for six months, I would have never let him back in my life to begin with.
And that actually did happen to me once. I was dating this guy for a couple of months. I REALLY liked him. And after about two months he stopped calling me. I tried calling him twice and he never returned either of my calls. And I never heard from him again till 6 months later! He called out of the blue to apologize for being such a d*ck (those were his exact words). I didn't care though. I was just like 'yeah whatever.' He was like 'we should stay friends.' I was like 'aha, sure.' Bullshit. He could sense the indifference in my voice. I didn't care, didn't hold on to his number, didn't call him again, and didn't give him any indication that he could call me again or that I wanted him in my life, which I didn't. I mean with friends like him who needs friends.
And that is how you should feel with this guy. Give yourself more credit and put yourself on a pedestal. Don't let guys treat you like this. The second they do, love yourself enough to say, 'never again.' So stop sweating him and in your mind, write him off already, FOREVER. Just move on.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 He is in it for the fun and thinks you are too.There maybe other women like you out there.He feels he is like a stud and nothing more.
Are you satisfied ?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Nothing, this isn't a serious relationship. Your better of moving on and meeting another man
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reader, pari +, writes (18 January 2008):
next time he comes.... dont just accept his presence , take ur time. let him know he cant take u for granted.
seems like he is taking u for granted. this happens loadz, ur not da only one.
he may have another women but he may not aswell.
the truth can not always be seen. like we cant see stars in the morning.
if he keeps coming back, then he must love u, eventhough there is not as much attraction as there should be. there is something in u that keeps making him come back.
just get on with ur life (however hard it is) and show that u HAVE A LIFE! this will help- it shows that u r not a weak person in dire need of shelter........
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): To be honest I am not sure why you didn't freak out the first time he was gone for 6 mths?
I don't consider this normal behaviour at all. Do you not know how to contact him? If so ring him and find out where he is, in other words ask him if he has another life somewhere. Not because I am suggesting that this man is good enough for you but largley out of curiousity!
But don't put up with this type of disappearing act. It is not acceptable without a decent explanation, I say this assuming you are his partner? Did you have a different type of arrangement - no strings, if so this is what the relationship is based on and he is not accountable to you.
It is your decision whether it is acceptable!
Find something which is a loving growing relationship, with mutual respect and care. Good luck in finding him!
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