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writes:Okay. So my boyfriend has been lying to me about masturbating to other girls for about a year. I found tons of porn on his computer yesterday. I am really angry at him and I was wondering if phone sex would make him masturbate to me? And possibly if using a web cam during to show him whats going on. Is this a good idea or not? Please help me.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (29 June 2008):
hi
try getting him to do it over you and even you try it. i know when my wife saw me doing it she went mad at first but then wnted to try herself. which i didn't like much.
lets us know how you go
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reader, mustaine6  +, writes (27 June 2008):
doing that would probably make him masterbate over you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 You may achieve a limited success by doing that but it is a man's nature to seek varieties in their fantasies.
Hence the masturbating to porn with all types of girls .
Men and women have different sexual fantasies.
Accept the differences and be at peace with each other.
What he does in his male world is his own private affair.
You need to respect his privacy if you want him to respect yours.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Oh God
I masturbate to porn too! Does it make me wierd or half men? Why everyone thinks that porn is only a guy think? It has nothing to do with you deal ladies! Get over yourselves. I cant take these guestions anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): As you know, poster...I make no bones about the fact, that I believe pornography has no place in a caring mutually respectful, quality relationship. A lot of men know this very aspect...a lot may do the porn thing as a single guy, but many or most are wise to give it up after they find a relationship and a person they love. What I find so incredibly sad about your posting, is you think you should do all these seedy little things to keep this fellow, interested in you. So we know he has a problem and that is an incredibly huge amount of disrespect for you and I 'm guessing..but perhaps a lot of disrespect for women in general but....you also have a problem that needs fixing. It' called "not recognizing your dependent, needy feelings and not loving yourself enough to get out of this situation with a guy who wants nothing from you but to get his short lived orgasmic jollies at the price of your self-respect, which plainly, I can see there is very little of, if you are considering what you are thinking of doing.. Yikes! Dump this loser and go do something just for you...something much better that makes your life have some meaningfulness. Once you do that...your choice in men will vastly improve. And remember this quote I heard once..." people only go after and only accept, what they think they only deserve". Go make yourself happier with a guy who respects you but first gain your own self-love. That will teach you 'not' to feel you have to further downgrade yourself, to keep a low quality male interested. Strive for the best and deman respect from others. If they can't do it...get them the hell out of your life. Good luck, sweety and I truely wish you the best in your life decisions.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Why bother with a webcam?
OK so you're angry at him. If you're already thinking in that direction, make the "punishment" fit the crime - tell him you're angry, take him up to the bedroom, and order him to masturbate to you, and DON'T let him touch you and don't touch him.
Firstly, he'll probably be more than a little embarrassed (but I bet he won't refuse), and secondly you're making a point in a way that he would never have expected. If you're still annoyed with him, you can tell him that's ALL you'll let him do until he's more honest and more sensible about the Internet stuff. YOU set the rules. In this case, using the power of your sexuality and his needs is perfectly justified and could actually be rather fun to do.
And read again what Ask_oldersister said. It's good advice.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Webcam? They can be recorded. Do you want to see yourself all over the internet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Yes i believe it will. My boyfriend was single was quite a while and frequently masturbated to porn. Well once he was with me, he was so into the habit that he continued. I had him talk to me about it and then told him it was perfectly ok and that as long he wasn't obsessive about it I didn't mind, he had needs. Then after that kind of open conversation I started to bring up small topics such as what his fantasies were, then began to ask him would he like that with me and so on and so forth and the phone sex began. Well much to my surprise its two months later and he hasn't watched porn in more than a month..and the two times that he did he only masturbated once, when I asked him why he said it wasn't as much fun without any interaction from me. So yes I believe it will help. As for the webcam don't have any experience there but I think u should hold off on that so that you can throw something in new after awhile to spice things up.
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