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51-59,
*ucyrd
writes:I have been dating a guy for several months. We had gotten along GREAT! Not so much as one disagreement. He was very attentive, thoughtful, talked about the future a little bit for us, and over night, it all changed! He stopped calling back, yet tells me to call him. He makes plans only to break them over and over. When I ask him what is wrong, he does not tell me. No matter how I ask, he only says that he has some things he needs to get done. I am not trying to keep him from anything, and I have been very understanding. Then he will tell me to call him. Yet, he does not call back for a week. I don't understand what he wants, and he won't tell me. I really care about him. Should I just walk away? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): I'm actually familiar with this behavior. It happened to me WHEN I WAS IN MY EARLY TWENTIES! I didn't tolerate it then and I most certainly don't tolerate it as a older more mature woman. Bottom line of the situation is that you don't have to tolerate this type of behavior. No one needs this immaturity. I would start hanging out by myself, friends, family, etc. This is just crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): He is not in love with you. A guy in love will rarely break plans with a woman and he is doing it over and over again and you're letting him.
Stop calling him, stop taking his calls, reward his bad behavior with distance. If he doesn't start pursuing you again then forget him.
If you like him so much and you chase him then he has all of the power in this...but I would stop focusing on him at all, do the things you like to do, see the other men you want to see, and if he calls and you don't have other plans and want to see him OK, but never break your plans to go out with him. You have to teach him how to treat you.
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