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writes:dear cupid aunt,i am new on the website but i couldnt help myself not ask for your advise. i am currently in a long distance relationship with a guy that i have been friends with ever since 2009 i met him through a chat line and we began being friends he was uptight and all hes the kind of guy that always questions everything. well i have been crushing on him ever since i spoke to him i tried doing everything that could make him like me the way i did him! just 2 months back in january of 2011 he told me that he loved me and that i make hes heart beat faster and that i make him stutter a lot. we have the kind of relationship that most people wouldnt call normal we dont talk on the phone we never do we just chat:) before he told me he loved me we used to chat and talk for hours but now i bearly have anything to say i just want everything to be like it was before. when we do meet up face to face (on holiday) all i can do is blush and embaress myself and smile i cant help it. we havnt kissed yet but we really want to.. so my question is: what can i do to make us (as in me and him) feel comfortable with each other? and how do i let him know that i am all his without having to send nude pics o have sex with him? as i said before i really like this guy i feel like hes mine and no other girl can take him away from me and he himself told me that he loves me just the way i am and if i change anything about me i would be breaking hes heart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): I feel like you really fell in love with him already but I see that your problem with him is that you only met him through a chatline and that probably makes it awkward for you guys to converse or interact in person. I know that it is hard for girls to be the one acting and doing the first moves but if he doesnt do anything to you such as talking to you in person or whatnot, then you should do the talking.
During your online chatting, talk about how you guys are not talking in person. One advice that I can give you is that you guys should go to a dinner that way you'll have the chance to talk to him in person and show him what you're really like. Final advice is that just be yourself, don't act differently when he's around to show the real undistorted you.
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reader, highschoolsweetheart16  +, writes (7 March 2011):
i would say that maybe you guys work on talking on the phone again then moving up by meeting each other in person because you guys probably arent going to get anymore comfortable together by only chatting online.
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp!  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello :)
Well it ovibous you are both very shy. and its always very hard to stop being shy and get other your fears of intermitcie.
I used to be just like this i got really nervous of doing anything like this kissing, holding hands sometimes even talking to someone i loved was hard enough.
But what you have to do is slowly build up your confidence together and build it up bit by bit.
Start talking on the phone. talking together is a very good way to get over your fears it might be arkward the first few phone calls but after a while im sure you will start to open up to eachother.
Also tell him you are shy otherwise if you dont he might think you are being off with him or something and i am sure he can help and support you and try and get you to open up.
And as for pictures and sex dont do anything your not comforbtable with and tell him that. but to boast you confidence perhaps make yourself up dress up in some nice clothes and do some make up if you like make that is and send him that picture. you dont have to be naked or in your underwear just perhaps a nice picture of you looking kinda special for him
and when you meet up try to talk as much as you can and start off with little things push yourself and try to be as open as you can start off maybe just by hugging or slightly holding hands or even gently flirting. and soon in time your reltionship should grow. :)
Hope this helps
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