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writes:All of a sudden my boyfriend isnt into me AND i just dont understand itAll he does is ditch me then makes an excuse about it. I almost broke up with him the other day but he literally begged me to not, but then he just ditched me again. why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): Take the advice sweetie. We know it might be hard but it's up to you to act on it, not us. If you want to stay miserable then go ahead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits hard to just let him go i mean we use to spend everyday with each other hes my bestfriend & has been a part of me for almost two years. trust me i want to be done so bad but everytime i try hes just is always there we both have the same friends so i feel like i will never escape
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): I second blue_bird. Guys (us) are often very lazy, they would just stick with a woman for the warmth, to watch a movie and have a beer, nothing else. So it may be like this: you probably get on his nerves off an on - not your fault, just incompatibility - so he leaves, but then realizes he misses your compliments, your warm couch and the like. Your love for him probably keeps you from doing this, but do try: take a silent break from him. Don't tell him you're doing this, but be "unavailable" for a week. You will see how he reacts, and most importantly, how you feel about him. If you feel good and don't miss him, then go on like that, see what he does then. Either way will be good for you, either he realizes how it is to be without you and will value you more, or you will realize that you perhaps are better off without him. Remember not to go on facebook, but do answer emails and texts - you're simply busy. PS When I was more or less your age, I was with a girl who messed me up well with her mental issues. When I finally realized it was her who makes me feel bad all the time, I did exactly this, disappeared. I loved and liked her, didn't intend to break up, but after two, three days away from her I felt like a newborn. She panicked, came to my place and wrecked my kitchen, so naturally I was so angry that I kicked her out, almost physically. She made me leaving her much, much easier.
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reader, Blue bird  +, writes (15 September 2012):
It appear he loves you not. It may be hard top hear but look at people you know who really are in love - they do everything together and usually claim they can't live without the other half.It seems you (ex)boyfriend is not that into you so whilst he doesn't want to be with you he doesn't want to be alone and you are there presumably until something better comes along.You deserve better and they is someone out there who would be lucky to be with you, so ditch him and if you fall easy to his begging tactics delete him from your phone/facebook etc and avoid contact for a good few months (this will be hard but worth it in the long term). and concentrate on enjoying your life until your Mr right arrives. Otherwise you may wake up in 5 years in the same situation of being on and off.Good luck and don't settle for anything less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): He clearly is not into you, sorry but its true. looks at people who are in love - they want to spend all their time together, your (ex)boyfriend clearly doesn't want to spend all his time with you. My view (without going into his mind) is he doesn't want to be single hence begging you to be with him but at the same time want to keep his options open (presumably by testing the water with others) when he ditches you.
You deserve better - life is too short move one and find someone who feels lucky to be with you - if you struggle with falling for his begging tactics - go cold turkey and end all contact with him - until you are strong enough to say your over him and mean it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): You need to tell him that you dont have the time for his shenanigans and he needs to make up his mind. Your still young and if i was you i would totally dump him theres plenty of guys out there that will treat you how you want to be treated. Tell him that if he continues to treat you that way then you have no other choice but to leave him
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