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writes: I'm 22 yr old female and have been married for 2.5 months. My husband is 29 yrs old and we are very much in love with each other. The problem is that we are unable to have sex (intercourse) because he loses erection whenever he takes a pause to wear condom. We have never been able to make the penetration partly because he loses erection easily ( but he lasts very long when I give him oral sex) and partly because I don't get wet. I used to get wet very easily during the first month of our marriage and now I get turned on only by reading erotic stories. None of us like watching porn movies. We both are virgins, is there any problem with me or my husband? Please help !!
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reader, arieschic +, writes (27 April 2005):
My best guy friend had the same problem, until a girlfriend of his solved it, He would go limp putting on the condom cause it was too tight and hurt a bit, they do come in many sizes, try a larger size and see if that helps at all, Another suggestion is if its a mental thing like the pause is killing the mood for him, then you could try putting the condom on him as part of the foreplay, they arent hard to put on and if you want to practice first to avoid any embarassing slips the first time then buy a few packs of condoms at the drug store and lock yourself in the bathroom with either a dildo or a banana and practice putting it on. Once you know how to put it on you can add a bit of a back and forth stroking motion to the application and then you should be able to slide it on him while you are still in the process of arousing him. As for you getting wet, you can always use lube. Some women need more attention during foreplay to get wet, is hubby helping out with that? Both of you should map out each others bodies, get to know what things turn each other on and what things have the opposite effect, experiment with positions, toys, props, manual and oral stimulation, anything that strikes your fancy. learn what things work for each other and then you will become better at satisfying each other sexually.
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reader, PrncssJoanne +, writes (25 April 2005):
You need to seriously consider going on the pill and stop using condoms if this is a problem. If you don't get wet enough, try using foreplay as much as possible. Also, if you not getting wet continues to be a problem, talk to your doctor about it, or even use KY jelly or something like that. If stopping the use of the condoms doesn't help him... Well he'll need to talk to a doctor also about that. Hope this helps!
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reader, made ap +, writes (25 April 2005):
Well I think that you should explore more in the sex. Why dont you go on the pill? That way you dont have to use a condom (but I understand about the STD'S). If you are married you don't have to use a condom. When you do feel like having sex, why don't you explore more and use toys and try different pastions? If that doesn't work, sit down with your man and tell him what and how you feel! If he loves you enough he will understand and do everything in his power to work and resove your problem! I hope it goes well.
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