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writes: So to be blunt, how do you go about asking someone if they'd be willing to try a LDR?I met this guy two years ago (in person) and we had lots of fun hanging out, so we exchanged addresses and e-mails and all that, and for the past 1.5 years we've gotten really close and I've taken a huge liking to him.I'm getting similar vibes from him too, but of course I'm not 100% sure of how he feels.We're hanging out in about a month and I've decided that 2007 is not going to be another wasted year. I want to tell him how I feel. Normally I'd just say "Hey, wanna go out for a cup of coffee?" or something, but since he lives a bit far, that's not really possible.So how do I go about telling him how I feel, and seeing if he wants to give LD a try, without sounding like a psycho?Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Bekie____x +, writes (3 January 2007):
 I had exactly the same experience last year, he was all I could think about and I had no idea how to go about telling him I liked him.I'm glad that you're prepared to do something and as you say don't want to waste this year. I know you probably have a feeling deep inside that you don't want what you tell him to destroy your friendship.However, if this boy is genuine and is the one for you then he isn't going to react in a way like that. You need to ask him perhaps whether he could see you as more than friends or.. as I normally do slip an I love you into an email. This is what started my relationship off. The guy, Lewis said to me do you really? cos I love you.. and it went from there.You've just got to gather al of the confidence you have and say something to him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, which by what I've heard seems really unlikely then I'm sure you can stay friends. I don't think there are a lot of things you could say to make him think you're a psycho. I would just straight out ask him if he liked me in that way, whether he could see a relationship blooming, if there's a positive answer then go for it, "do you think we could give a long distance relationship a go?" there's no harm in trying. Good luck honey!BekieXX
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