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writes:Im in a relationship with this 15 year old boy. He lives 300 miles away and we've never met but we've fallen in love. Ive tried so hard to say its over but i just cant! Its our 3rd time we've gone out so i think that we've something. Everyone tells me to finish it but i dont want to and neither does he. helppppp!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Don't misuse the word "LOVE". Love is not liking someone, or wanting to be around them. You may value this friendship, but that's how friendships are to be treated. That doesn't equal true love between a girl and a boy. Just as (believe it or not) sex = sex, nothing else. Remember Love is the complete opposite of hate. there are no feeling that reach further in either direction.
If others just tell you to end it. It's OK to have friendships. I would have to say, their not taking time to understand you. Set them down and tell them you have to talk. Let them know where you're coming from. Also let them know if they bud in while you're talking the conversation is over. They may be able to help you really sort out the feelings, and help you decide.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I dont think talking on the internet for a very long time can make you fall 'in love' with them, but I knwo where your coming from. You feel special that he takes the time to talk to you all the time and etc and that feels good.
But you should really be careful if you ever want to meet each other. Are you sure hes the person you say he is. I mean i must admit..I talked to this guy on the net along time ago and I told him I was 18 when actually i was 14 at the time. He could be a 40 year old pervert. So its kool to keep it casual and just talk but if he ever suggests meeting up say no until you know he is genuine. But still I find it weird that two people who just talk on the net and have never met can fall 'in love' with each other. to me it sounds oblivious. Its unlikely. There are plenty of other people in the world that you know are real. You probably just liek eeach other a lot. coz you both give each other attention.
Maybe you should focus on the people around you for possible boyfriend. but just be careful. if you feel as though your feelings are still genuine in the future then perhaps meeting him will be a highlight of your life, but if you do, make sure you bring a friend with you. parent. other adult. anybody.
goodluck hun
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 If you have never met than you are not 'in love' Love is something that takes time, lots and lots of time actually in each others presence doing things together rather than just talking about the things that you do separately. People can be who they wish they were rather than who they actually are when they are on the internet, so please be very careful. It is perfectly ok to maintain a friendship with this young man, but dont forget to live a real life, too. Maybe some day the two of you can really meet, but as the previous poster said this needs to be done with the full knowlege and consent of both your parents.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Well this is a hard one.Firstlyn your subsituting a real psyical relationship for a virtual one and you never know who is on the other side of the moniter. This is just me telling you to be safe on the internet and be careful what you say and never meet up with parents knowledge.Besides that if you are willing to continue this relationship and you know he is who he says he is, you can ignore others and what they say. You are your own person and if you make each other happy you have every right to talk to this boy. Ignore your friends but it seems they are just worried for you. Talk on a webcam and make sure he is who he says. If he is and you really want to continue it, go on.
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