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writes: Shall I just cut off contact with him completely?I broke with a guy whom I really love than anyone in my life after 7 month dating. He invited me to see his parents one month before the break-up. The reason we broke up is because I dont feel he loves me at all, he just uses me as another language teacher and for fun, but I treated him with all my heart and soul, but he just ignored me again and again, went to party without me during the weekend again and again, lied to me again and again, so I got hurt more and more,feel down and even down, then I can not bear with more then we broke up after graduation. He asked me to stay school for another two days waiting his back from D.C. and wanted to seriously talk to me after the break up, I still have that feeling for him so I changed my flight for him, it turned out he was lying again, he did not want to talk at all, all he wanted was just for sex and fun-I refused him and left the city we both studied next day, he then moved to NYC afterwards.It is already 40 days after the break up. He sometimes texted me and emailed me with some update of his life. Everytime I replied because I can not help myself, even I almost have a new boyfriend with me, I still think of him a lot and he is still the only one I love! He knew I would be NYC this weekend, he asked me to call him, but he texted me yesterday that he went to Long Beach right again, he was there 5 days ago! There were two things I can speculate: he has a new girlfriend in LA so he keeps coming twice within 10days; second, he changes him mind and does not want to see me in NYC or just wants me to feel bad again, so he is lying to me again saying he is at Long Beach.In either case, I think I should not contact him any more, since knowing his status doesn help me get it over. But I just can not be that cold to ignore his email and msg because I still love him so much- How can I get over him and how long it is going to take?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): No offense but, it sounds like to me he was playing you. When someone loves you they do for you as you would do for them. In a relationship, honesty, respect, and loyalty play big parts. What you say he does doesn't include any of those attributes. I'd say start loving and respecting yourself more and tell him have a good life. You don't need anyone treating you as if your feelings don't matter. Just think about it. Everyone deserves happiness that God intended. Gope this helped.
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