He lets his family tell him what to do about me

A female age 36-40, *sabella1987 writes:

Hi everybody please help me.I need help.I'm so sad and confuse.I have been date with him for 2 years and we live together.Past 2 month ago we move to his home town. when we live before we don't have no problem. After we moved to his home town he changed.He don't spend time with me too much.He go out alot.(he said he go to his mom house and family member house for visiting) Lik 4,5 days aweek.After he visit from hi family house they give him advice about our relationship.Not for good one.They told him I want to move to another city because I want to control him and stuff like that.So, we fight almost evyerday.I talk to him last week about it.He don't agree what I say to move to another city and he still want to going out.I stay home myself when he went out. Sometime he take me with him sometime he don't. He told me man need his own time.I have to let him go.He don't like I called him when he is in his family house.I call him and ask when he come back he got mad. (But he call me when he arrive in his family house,and he said nomore calling). I am so mad.We fight alot.So,2days ago I left him.I told him I'll go visit to my family and then I wrote the letter for him.Said, I'm not going back to him.he called me right away and he cried.he told me to come back.I said NO.But I still love him.I miss him so much. I can't move on.I can't forget him.Now I live with my parents,but I am unhappy.I called him this morning and we talked.He changed.He said his family told him the wold is not end, and bad stuff about me again. I told him if he want me back he have to change. He want me to change.He want me to not jealous,sociallize. and being good wife.cooking cleaning house. He said he make money I stay home and I should clean the house and food ready for him.( I used to not cook too much,not clean nither,He did but not all the time sometime I did)And he told me if I treat him like a king he will treat me like a queeen. I'll be the queen at home but same time I have to be a woman too to work for house stuff.Another things he told me I have to let go my jealously and not fighting for no reason.If I did again he will throw me to the street.I don't know I should go back or not.I am so confuse.If you were in sitution like this how you ganna be decited.Please help me...

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