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*artha30
writes:Hi, i got pregnant because my method fail, i have a genetic condition which if i get pregnant and labor a baby i have the change to grown tumors all over my body,also spontaneous abortion, hypertension, and a chance of high complication, even death of both me and the baby. My partner dindt know about my condition because i didnt want him to feel pity of me.When I told him i was pregnant,he got very nervous and bad at me. He told me that he didnt wanted the child and if i decided to have it, he will leave me. Then he asked me what i wanted to do, i just told him i wasnt prepared to be a mother for several reason, but i was very sad and it was a difficult desicion, because in my heart i wanted to have it. Then he told me i should abort it and he provided me the number of the clinic. After several nights of horrible pain that didnt stop, i decided to have a abortion, because of my health conditions. Also the baby 50% of having the disease with the probability of birth defect, and a father that didnt love or wanted the baby, i decided to abort, when i went to the abortion the doctor told me i was already bleeding. At first i was willing to take the risk no matter if i died of complications, if he wanted to have the baby. But after all those things he told me, my bad health conditions at the time, i decided to have the abortion, thinking if was the best for the three, as he said to me. He was also all days making me pressure to do it,i just stop thinking and do it. I did it when i was 4 weeks. After that he told me he will be there to support me and that in the future when i was prepared and also he was prepared then we will have a baby. After weeks he left me and disappear without telling me any reason, just text me i dont want to see you more. I was very sad, depressed, i lost my baby, my health wasnt any good and he just left me. After 1 month of these i found he always was engaged with another girl, then i realize that he lied to me all time and the reason for him not to have the baby was that he was engaged and that is why he pressured me so much, he didnt care of me, my health or baby. I got mad and sad at the same time. I found the girl profile and write her to open her eyes, because he was with a man that doesnt deserve her, and that he was just playing with girls telling he was single. Maybe she didnt believe me, but i needed to tell her at least to be aware. i dont know if it was the right thing to write to her , or maybe send her all the evidence i have to prove it. But he is a jerk, he doesn't deserve to be happy, and i am so mad that he cheated on his girlfriend because maybe she is a good girl and he is cheating on her and hurting gils like me, it isnt fair that he just walks up and keeps being happy...i will like your opinions, thank you
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reader, martha30 +, writes (8 September 2010):
martha30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose she didnt believe, after i sended her the email, she didnt respond it. But i think she said something to him, because he cancel all his profile and the profile he had as single men. This way if she searched she no longer can find it. He had two profile the one he had private to hide her and the one he had with only his initial where he was single and for sure he had her blocked her from that profile so she couldnt find him. Also after that e mail she blocked her profile, so nobody know can send her emails. So, finally she just believe him or wants to ignore the true and continue. I didnt send her any evidence, i waited if she asked for it, but i think she talked to him first. So i feel know so pitty for her, marrying a men that really doesnt respect her or any women. And he soon will receive his punishment, how you said karma will arrive on him.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Usually I say leave the girlfriend alone, but this is because the other woman is angry and wants to hurt her. If you contact the girlfriend because your angry, she will not believe you and he will be able to convince her with lies.Your heart is good, you want to help his girlfriend. I think you were very kind to warn her about how nasty her boyfriend is. I think she probably believed you, because you didn't try to hurt her when you wrote to her.I'm angry, that he gave you the clinic number and let you do this alone. That man is a pig. So sorry babes, sorry about everything. Karma will give him back what he deserves.
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reader, martha30 +, writes (5 September 2010):
martha30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, i really think every women deserve to know. That is why men keep cheating and cheating, because we don't let other women to know about it. After i sended her that email she didnt respond me, but i found he deleted his single profile that he had, that means that she told her something and he make a fast move to delete that account before she saw it. I know that he will do everything to prove her i am not telling the true. I also wrote to her without my name, because i dont know her and maybe she doesnt believe me and think i am trying to take his boyfriend and do something to hurt me, because there are people that likes to harm other. But at least i advice her and if he deleted his single profile, he is know scared that she discover the true of all, i just will give her evidence is she ask for it, but if she doesnt ask for it , it means that she doesnt care or believe and she only believe... but karma arrives some day in these men and his concious will never be calm. I am calm with me, because i know i was honest with her, cared for him and the abortion was for health conditions of me and the baby, he doesnt even deserve to be a father, he expresed so badly about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): You know, many people think that its best NOT to report to the cheaters partner/wife/gf/fiance after he's slept with you and left you. People tend to say to move on and forget about him. I disagree, I think you did the right thing. Women need to support each other and warn each other of men who mistreat other women. She deserves to at least know what type of man she is potentially marrying. Its her decision now whether to continue or not, but at least she is informed. You did the right thing, but now move on. You will find a lovely guy out there, just make sure you're with someone that treats you like gold. Something tells me that he most likely did not. Hugs.
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