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writes: here is a gay related question.I was in a commited gay relationship for a few years long distance, now my partner several months back ended it saying that his feelings changed and that he thinks he is bi.Several months later while picking the pieces of my broken heart he comes back into my life, saying he wants me, was a fool, tried pushing me away, and loves me, was scared, then when I asked if he wants to be with me later in a text he replies with, "I feel lost and confused and don't know what I feel and don't know what I want."Now please tell me, if you genuinely love someone so much that at one point they would do anything for you, then from day to night they change, and they now say that they don't know what they want or what is in their heart and feel confused did they ever infact LOVE YOU? I mean if they really did love the person as much as they had previously said, they would not have any doubts right, or am i wrong?Please help i need some opinions.he is confused which makes me full of doubt and anger, do I wait, is there something to save while he is confused trying to FIGURE out what and who he is? or do I move on? do i support him? I love him, but frankly he hurt me so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but sometimes, I just want to forget he exists.What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): If you can't imagine life without him, then you've answered your own question. Overlook the pain and the hurt...concentrate on the good moments...be patient/supportive/loving. Even if he were totally secure in his sexuality, there are no guarantees in life (i.e. that you will always be together); so, enjoy the time that you are together and whatever special moments you share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): He sounds very unsure. Let him have some time on his own until he works his head out. I think you are bound to feel the way you do but you can't force a person to come back to you. If he has come back with the notion that he is still not sure then ask for space.
What do you really want? Do you really want to feel like this all the time? I doubt it. Have a month off from each other. Sort out your feelings and get strong again. Don't let him sap your strength while he goes through this period of uncertainty. Let him know that you have feelings too and you want to get yourself strong enough to be able to cope.
You may have to face the fact that you would be better off without him.
Do Take Care
xx
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