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writes:hi my partner has just left me after 4 years together we have a 2 year old daughter as well.. i just cant seem to cope im lonly i love him so much and i would do any thing to have him back he rang the other nite saying he regrets it and wants to come back then he took me out last nite and all he did was cry saying he is so confussed i would love for him to come back but i cant see it happerning..when he comes to see his daughter and then he leaves im a mess just cant stop crying .xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Reebe +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Oh well done you!
Take control of your own life and it will all fall into place.
you will hurt for a while but in time you'll have a huge smile on your face you should be proud of yourself :-)
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reader, tracyluton +, writes (28 March 2007):
tracyluton is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank yo so much its hepled me alot..today i went and sogned up for a college corse and start monday,so im just going to get on with my life im going bingo tonite with some friends i think it will do me good.im still herting inside but at the mo i put it to the back of my head..i have to move on for megans sake..i will be ok in the end it dont seem much now but il grow stronger thank you so much you have been great.xxxx
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reader, elsie +, writes (28 March 2007):
 me again darling.i know how you feel.i read your follow up reply and it struck so many chords with me.ive been through exactly the same.you know what if you try and act like you are ok in a funny way you may start to believe everything will be fine.it like smiling even though you might feel like crap inside.the summers here soon try and take your daughter out as much as you can.i found taking my son out helped me to at least calm down and burn off that horrible energy.force yourself to have some nights out.sometimes youll feel strange(i was shaking the first night i had out after my breakup)but you will get better and better.remember life is here now.what you are going through is only natural.i had alot of that treatment from my ex and you know what in the end i said enough is enough.i was fed up with all the backwards and forwards so i ended it and it seemed strange to see someone look as sad as i once had.one thing you need to find out is why he feels like he does its all very vague. in the end youll get fed up waiting.its hard to see now but if this doesnt work youll look back with pride that you did hold yourself together for your childs and your own sake.best of luck.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 March 2007):
Stop right now what you are doing!
You need to eat and sleep and take care of you and your child, no man is worth that. I know you think everything sucks and life is incredibly unfair right now. Please don't do anything silly your child needs you, you seem very very depressed and I urge you to go and see your doctor.
Keep your distance from this guy or at least until you can get your head back together, because right now looking after you and your child is more important.
Take care and keep in touch.
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reader, tracyluton +, writes (27 March 2007):
tracyluton is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your kind words ijust dont no what eles to do any more im finding my self not paying attention to my daughter i dont no whats going on in my head.. i said to my ex that we wont get in contact for 2 weeks and see what happens.. im really close to his mum was just on the phone to her she was saying theres still a chance just give him speace...i just hate not noing what to do im thinking of just ending it completly so then i have an answer and i can start getting on with my life.but i still want to tey for my daughters sake as well..we hade so many good times..im trying to keep my self busy but all im doing is thinking and things keep going around in my head..i cant stop thinking.. i havent eaten since friday as my belly is in nots iv had about 6 hours sleep in 4 days.. i dont no what eles i can do..do u think i should end it completly or giv him space to sort his head out.xxx
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reader, elsie +, writes (27 March 2007):
i think your partner owes you alot more on the explanation front.hes dropped a bombshell on you.i know that your daughter is only 2yrs old but doesnt she deserve some sort of idea as to where dads gone?after all hes dumped this on your shoulders without havin to tell her lies aswell.i know how you feel ive been through the same stuff.just be careful that you dont create a pattern of splitting up and getting back together.remember too that if he does come back you have your pride too.he needs to understand the pain hes causing and that he HAS to talk it through before he just runs away.its going to be extremely hard but cant he take his daughter out.at least this might give you a break and from my own experience you will get stronger.at the moment hes probably coming and going as he pleases and although you are probably desperate to see him it wont go very far to making him realise what hes got to lose.are there any people on his side that you get on with that maybe can shed a bit more light on this?after all they maybe are related to your daughter and its not fair that they may be unaware as to how hurt you are.hope this helps.good luck sweetheart there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 March 2007):
Don't be so hard on yourself, relationships are hard when they end and things seem like they will never get better, they will it just takes time.
Your partner seems confused right now, and doesn't seem to know what he wants. I suggest right now you give him some space, try and hold yourself together and not fall apart when he is around, there's nothing wrong with having a good cry when your feeling down. I'm guessing this has come out of the blue and you need time to understand why and get used to things as they are now. Talk things through with friends and family and try to keep yourself busy. At the moment take things easy 1 day at a time. Maybe in a couple of weeks have a talk with your partner and ask him to clear up somethings and talk things through.
Good Luck
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