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writes: My husband has walked out on me reason does not love me anymore and sick of my nagging. The last few months he had been totally withdrawen from me could not stand coming home from work or facing me. He had been working shift work for years. Since he has moved out i have found out he has quit his job been seeing someone from his work and also someone else in the two months he has been moved out they have not worked out i have heard. He has washed hands completely of the house etc but is waiting for the money. Should i confront him as i need answers if he was seeing these women, only thing is i do not want to lower myself to his level. please can some one help i am moving on but still need these answers.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (19 January 2006):
 If he's really gone then I don't think he'll give you the closure you are seeking. In addition, if you do keep asking or bugging, to him it will just appear that he was right all along. I say take what you got and move on; any person who doesn't want to be with me is more than welcome to LEAVE. I'm not going to ask why, I'm content to know you don't want me and I don't want someone who doesn't want me. Good luck
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (17 January 2006):
 If the reason he left you was because of your nagging then I don't think that nagging him further will get you the answers you desire. I feel like it is maybe closure of some type you are seeking, but that has to come from within you, the answers he gives you would probably not help in your situation. If you feel that he was not faithful, then he probably gave you reason to have those feelings, I would assume that he was unfaithful and begin my healing process with out continueing to ask him for more answers. I really feel like the best thing you can do is try to stay away from him as much as possible, he would probably just say things to hurt your feelings, it sounds like he has a lot of resentment for you. Good luck.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (17 January 2006):
 Your post is a little unclear if you found out he was seeing somebody while he was with you and then somebody else or whether all this came after he walked out. I suspect this is the thing you want to find out?
I can certainly see why you would feel that he may have been having an affair as his withdrawal during the last few months of your relationship may suggest that.Obviously you need to know to get some form of closure. For some reason i get the impression you are pretty sure he was having an affair and you are just looking for confirmation of that to cement your disdain for him. You want to cauterize the wound.
If, however, you find out there was no affair then would that radically change your feelings? If you ask him be prepared for any answer.
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