A
female
age
30-35,
*girl
writes:I have a few problems I can't really solve by myself. am a shy person naturally and although I can try to act normal with others when it comes to the man I like I find it harder to overcome my shyness and embarrassment around him. Not only that but he seems to be even shyer then me, which makes it hard for me to try to figure out what he is thinking. I feel that he likes me even though he hasn't really told me. I find him looking at me throughout the day in the ceramics room and when I find him looking at me he normally looks away really quickly, but sometimes he keeps looking(I often do the same thing)- which always gets me really excited that he didn't turn away. He is always up to helping me when I ask for it or giving me advice and he often jokes and laughs with me about all kinds of things. The main problem is that I am a 20 year old university student and he is a part time professor here. He is 28 and I have never had him for a class, nor will I ever due to my major and his subject. I met him after taking a pottery class; he was always in the studio working on his own works. At first I wasn't really into him, I didn't think he was very attractive and to be honest I was intimidated by him (although now I have no idea why) but his art work caught my eye. And because of his work I found myself talking to him more about ceramics and before I realized it, had a very large crush on him. For a while I kept it to myself, but later on I found that I might have been getting positive vibes from him. So I told him that I had a crush on him and the next day (my 20th birthday) he told me that he wasn't sure about a relationship yet, but he would like to take me on a couple dates and see where it goes from there. And he then followed up with a small birthday gift. After a couple weeks of getting to know one another better he asked me on a date. Now we have been on three dates together and although he has never kissed me or held my hand I still feel like he somehow likes me. He takes me out for little things like ice cream and lunch and walks, but when we go we don't talk about the fact that we are out on a date or relationships, we just try to have fun.... and I always do- probably just because I am having time with him. He does small things that make me feel like he is trying to let me know he cares without saying so. he opens the car door for me and looks just a little bit nicer when we go out and says things like "we will have do defiantly do this again." He knows how I feel, but I still don't know where he stands. I have become even more attracted to him since we have been getting to know each other better as friends but now it has been 2 months going on three and I would love to have a relationship. I am not really looking for this to be just casually dating; I want something serious with him. I don't know what he wants.... I think that he is bothered that I am a student- which is understandable and I don't want him to be in trouble because of me- and I know that by dating a professor I would have to act accordingly which him while on campus. But because he has taken me out I feel like he is thinking about taking the chance. but I still don't know if he likes me or if he even wants a relationship with me or if he still needs time or what..... It makes it really hard because I am shy, but I want to ask him how he is feeling now... and I don't want to scare him away.... I have been looking up tips on how to go about this but because the situation is so complicated I haven't really found what I need... so if anyone has any ideas of how to ask him or go about getting to the next level please let me know! Thank you
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 He is definitely interested in you . Ask him directly if he is interested to have a relationship with you ?
This way ,you would know where you stand with him.
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