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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So here is my story. I encountered a guy at my university whom I have posted about before. I caught him staring at me when I was buying something at the student bar shop. He was sitting right behind us and I saw him look at me couple of times. This guy is a student representative, he is very popular and leader like and he is obsessed with political and social activism and causes and he is always protesting against the school’s managements. I did not see him for the next 5 days but he was back on Monday as he was going to protest against the school’s management and throughout the time I saw him, he would continuously stare at me and he would look at me as if I was something special. I have never had any guy look at me in the way he looks at me. One time, he gave me such a piercing stare that I had to look away from him. Normally, I always meet his gaze but that day, I just couldn’t. It was so intense. By the next week, he suddenly became quite loud whenever he was around me. He would also visit the students centre where I frequently sit, quite a lot and would pretend he came there for some other reason but then I would catch him look at me. He also lied down in front of my seat and was talking on his phone. He also brought a bag which had wordings written in my native language and left it deliberately in the students centre. All this time, he never initiated contact or talked. I tried smiling but he never smiled. All he did was stare and stare to the point where I started feeling weird about myself, as if I had something on my face. Two days ago, I encountered him alone in the reception area and he was gazing at me fondly. It was a really loved up look and I cannot forget how pure his face appeared and I gave him a smile and surprisingly he returned my smile. He was heading to the library but he quickly picked up the smile and joined me towards the student centre and we talked about his protest and I congratulated him. Then he asked me if we met before and kept his arm on my shoulder and later on we shook hands and exchanged names. He left after that. Throughout the day, he was again busy with library work and we only saw each other once and exchanged a smile. However, today, I saw him with his friend and I was not keen to speak to him in front of his friend but we did see each other and he did not nod or say hi to me and went out straight away with his friend. The next time I saw him was when he was near the crowd of protestors and I saw him looking over me but I went inside the school building so I did not know much. Anyways, I do not understand one thing. This guy has never tried to get to know me or even schedule any personal time together. I mean I understand it’s just been 1 day we have personally spoken to each other but I am leaving this university for holidays within a week and will not be studying at this university for the next term and I do not have time for these delays. The University I will go to is on the same campus as this university so there is no issue of being unable t meet him but I do not understand. All he does is stare. When he has no interest in getting to know me, why did he lead me on by giving stares? I had started to like him as well and I hoped we could build something special but I do not get his attitude. Also, it is very difficult to get him one on one as there is always someone near him. I haven’t been able to speak to him face to face again so I cant say if he will ignore me or talk to me. But I just don’t get it. What are his intentions??
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (15 July 2017):
 He may be interested in you and not know how to approach you. As far as texts, do you guys text each other at all? if not I think you should put a ball on his court and text him, goodmorning, how are you, etc. I'm sure when you leave for the holidays he will notice that the places he once would see you he won't.
Maybe he just doesnt know how to talk to you and is nervous, which is why he didn't smile at you when you did. Theres are just small little things you are thinking way too much. I mean how can you like someone you haven't fully talked to, you don't know what his goals are, dreams, inspirations, what he wants to do in life, or what kind of a man he is just by him staring at you. I think you're wanting things to take off way too soon. You're first step is try to talk to him, make him want to go talk to you the secondd he sees you.
Good luck.
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 June 2017):
 Yes I think I remember you asking this question.
Why haven't you been able to talk to him? Did your tongue fall out your mouth at the exact moment that you tried to?
Someone looking at you is absolutely not something you can gauge off whether someone likes you or not. It sounds almost child like 'he won't stop looking at me so must like me!' Why don't you actually find out by speaking to him? And yes, you can speak to him at ANY time, stop coming up with excuses not to or else you will be asking yourself this silly question until you leave university.
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