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writes:Hiya guys...Okay, a friend from school who i haven't been in touch with a while, lets call her Amy, invited me round to her house [she's 18, and has just moved in with her fiance]. Me and another friend went round. While we were there, Amy's fiance's friend, lets call him adam, was there, i'd never met him before this.When i got home from her house, Amy text me saying that adam liked me and wanted my number. I felt bad saying 'no' so i text back saying 'yeh he can have it, but i'm happy being alone at the mo, and i'm not looking for a relationship, sorry' thinking that she wouldn't tell him.... wrong.2 minutes later i got a text.... i text him back, thinking that would be it and that he was just being friendly, but since then he has been texting me every night, asking lots of questions about my life and started calling me things like hun, and babe and gorgeous. I don't feel comfortable with him texting me, i prefer to meet people in my own way, so how do i get him to leave me alone? I can't just ignore his texts as Amy will text me and wonder why i haven't been texting him back, and i will still see him at Amy's house....help guys, please, feel free to ask any further questions if need be...thanks XoX
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Hey guys, i'm the original poster.You're right, i do find it hard to say no, and i'm not sure why. Everyone's advice is great, and as it's all along the same lines i will definatley be using it...thanks everyone for taking the time out to answer the question, it's all appreciated XoX
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Sounds like you find it hard to say no to anyone. First of all you agreed for him to text you when you didn't really want him to and now you can't get him to stop.
Ignore his texts and ignore Amy's texts when she asks why you didn't answer. Then when you see Adam again, get him on his own and tell him you don't want him texting him all the time and its fine to be friends when you see him but you don't want anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): This is probably not very good advice, but i always just say that i don't have unlimited texts and that i really can't be receiving all of these messages. It's costing me money. That's the easy way out anyway.
There are nice ways to tell him though. If he texts, you can text back and first answer his question but then say somethign like
"I am pretty busy and really get tired of texing so if you could ease up a little i would be less overwhelmed. Also, i'm not so sure i like the pet names. Friends don't usually call each other things like that."
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Tell him and her that you don't fancy him and don't want to continue talking to him :)xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Arrange to go out on at least one date. At least then if you still feel the same you can say you've tried, and tell him you would rather be friends. You say your not looking for a relationship, but guys comes along when you at least expect it!
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