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writes:I'm in a residential college and I have known this guy for 2 years, so when we moved into the college sparks started and now we're seeing eachother The problem is that from the start he's told me he's been hurt in the past, and that he will never go out with me officially, so we're kind of seeing eachother in secret, and he keeps telling me that he REALLY loves me, then tells me to go find someone else so that I don't get hurt, so it's on and off and on and off, like he'll say go find someone else, then tell me he needs me and wants me.Now people kind of know, because it's pretty obvious, like I sleep with him every night, so people have connected the dots, but whenever someone says congrats, etc, he just denies it.There's 4 other relationships in the college, and we're the only one that's hidden, and there's just no excuse other than if he's embarrassed about me.Also, whenever we're watching movies he constantly says how gorgeous the girls are, he's never said anything complimentary to me. And the guys in the college keep telling me about how he only likes Asian girls etc.So I had enough and decided to ask him if it was okay not to see each other and just be friends, but then he said he couldn't do it, and that we either keep seeing each other, or don't be friends. He's one of the most popular people in the college, so if I lose his friendship I lose everyones and I can't be alone for a whole year. :/I really don't know what to do. :(
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 November 2012):
 Great "choice" he gives you. May I re-state it: "Either you be my whore, or I'll see to it that your life is a desert for the next year."
Is that REALLY the kind of message you'd expect to get from a guy who "loves" you?????
STOP putting out for this guy... let the chips fall where they may.... but keep your soul intact!!!!
Good luck.....
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