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writes: Hi thereI was going out with my boyfriend for over a year and due to a lot of problems we split. Six months later we decided to get back together. Sex has been good but on the nights we sleep together and don't have sex my boyfriend masturbates himself. It takes him ages and throughout the night I feel my bed rocking. I cannot stand this and feel like breaking up with him. Also I have kids who are sleeping in the next room. I woke up one night and told him to stop it but he said all males did it. I am 32, he is 28. Also he never spends any time with me throughout the day, he does work a lot but when he has a day off he would rather spend time at his mum's house or cleaning his house. I have finished it a few times, but found myself unable to live without him. I can't take much more of this. Please help.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (21 August 2005):
 Seeing that he loves to spend so much time with his penis...tell him to do it permanently. He shows no respect for you or your kids. He is being selfish and to be selfish in sex is just wrong. If you feel you can't take much more of this...then go with that feeling. Women usually have an intuition that is wonderful..follow it. ana
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (20 August 2005):
I understand where he's coming from rocking the bed, even though it's wrong. In fact, I bet most of us do it at least once in awhile out of spite to rattle you for not having sex with us... When next you talk to him about it, ask him to go in the bathroom or living room and don't take any $%^@ about it. It's the decent thing to do, and not every guy keeps his woman up doing it every night. It's not only rude but immature too. About the spending time thing, I don't know what to say except say what you mean and don't be afraid to get into fights. Without fights, nothing gets worked out and you'll be left with bitterness. The key thing is having a "civil disagreement" where you try to keep things below the boiling point so you can communicate, or failing that, get a few things said before someone storms out so there are things put out to think on in the silence. I get the impression that you're the more submissive one, so to sum up my words in a phrase, don't take any #$@%.
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reader, pops +, writes (20 August 2005):
Kick him out of your bed, and out of your life. Its lonely to live without a mate, and with children, but you need to find someone who wants you and wants to live with you. and Love you. Then, talk about sex, desires, masturbation, toys, etc. Find out if you are going to be compatible before you climb into bed.
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