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writes: HI! i wonder if u guyz can help me out with this situation, im sorry if this is long.... um, about a month ago i was dating a wondeful man let call "K", i met him through a friend and we fell for each other right away, we went out on our first date and the next day he wanted me to be his girlfriend. "k" had never had a REAL relionship, I am pretty much his first girlfriend and his first on somethings like oral sex and kissing. we both go to different schools so itz kinda long distance, he come up hear to where i live over the holidays to hang and see his family.... i believe we were doing fine but after a 2 weeks he started to become distance with me and a day after our first month anniversary he broke up with me through e-mail. it made me wonder if he was to overwhelm in the relionship or was he just scared? he pretty much told me he was doing some soul searching and that he wasn't in mind set to date, and that he really like me but he just not ready to date my question is he scared??? could it be too much for him??? at the end he wanted to be friends i tried making "friends" work but he deosnt seem to budge and i feel this huge guilt on my shoulder i like him very much and i don't know what to do please help me im sooo hurt..thank you for your help i really appriciate it :)
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reader, laura585 +, writes (10 January 2010):
It's possible that he's scared and overwhelmed like you said. It's also possible that he just isn't in to you. Either way you shouldn't feel guilty. He's his own person and can make his own decisions, even if it's not exactly what you would've wanted. I would say just give him what he asks for - time and space. It will either come together or it won't. That may not be the answer you wanted to hear - but sometimes things just aren't meant to be. Hey, if he does come back around and more prepared this time then you guys can have a good shot at a relationship that would hopefully last longer than 30 days this time around. If not - as they say: there are plenty of fish in the sea. You want someone that wants you too, instead of wondering if they do or not all the time - don't you?
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