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*ullofwonders
writes:I have a boyfriend and we've been datieing for such a long time. Sense the 7th grade...... and we graduate this year. We both plan on going to college. And he just proposed to me. That changed everything. I havent said yes or no, but im just not ready for marriage. Although I'm not saying I don't want to marry him, but it was just so unexpected...... he thinks that I don't marry him. I mean I do but i just keep thinking of negative things. Like what if I'm not a good wife, what if this turns out to be a big mistake, what if i have to chose in between him and my career? I love so much we have so much in common but or colleges that we will be attenind are very distanced from eachother. I really just don't know what to do. He says that im "the one"...... Reply to this Question
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reader, fullofwonders +, writes (30 August 2008):
fullofwonders is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much for you adivse guys really helped! :)
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reader, CantHelpFallin +, writes (30 August 2008):
there's nothing wrong with long engagements but i also agree with basschick--if u are this unsure, nothing says you have to accept. talk things over with him before making a final decision.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 Well you know what they say. When you don't know what to do, don't do anything. You're young, you should date a few more men before you settle down. Sounds like this is the only guy you've ever been with and it would be a mistake to settle down right now. Don't be afraid to say No. It takes guts to be your own person, but you'll be glad you waited. You're too young, and too unsure of yourself to commit to marriage with anyone. Plus you'll always wonder what else is out there. Now's your chance to find out. Don't settle too soon. I think he just wants to tie you down, so you won't be dating other guys while you're in colelge. If you are this unsure, don't say yes!!
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