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writes:I'm 16 and have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months, it's been great I liked him for a while before we went out so I've been seeing this relationship as a bit of a dream. But recently he's been blowing me off at dates to hang out other girls who I know for a fact one of them fancies him. So I feel uncomfortable about it. I tried to tell my self it was fine and that it was going to pass by, because I still really like him. But then on facebook her married the girl who fancied him and they started sending hearts and kisses to each other and calling each other darling. As you can immagine I was devostated and thought instantly that he was cheating on me. So when I next saw him I did confront him about it and he said it was just for fun and that he isn't dating her. So I asked him to just divorce her on facebook because it made me feel uncomfortable. And to be honest it's facebook for heaven's sake. But when I asked this he just said not at the moment, then when I asked why he just had a go at me telling me I was being obsessive and that I didn't trust him.I really don't want to lose him but I also don't want to be in a relationship were my feelings don't matter and I'm all ways the last choice. What should I do about it?
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reader, authenticgal  +, writes (14 February 2011):
Two words: dump him. If he doesn't respect you, you have no reasons to stay with him despite how much you two are in love. I believe that every woman and every young girl do not deserve to be disrespect by their men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): This is a hard situation to give advice on.
Are most of his friends girls?
Removing the sex issue of his friends, can you imagine if he were to tell you when you are allowed to see your friends? That would be seen as very controlling.
I think you should end it because you don't trust him. You can't have a relationship with someone you don't trust. Things will just get worse.
Be with someone who respects your feelings.
If I was upset, my bf wouldn't call me obsessive, he'd care because he cares about me.
Dump him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2011):
 What does that say about your boyfriend when he blows you off to hang out with other girls or directly flirts with them on Facebook? His actions say he could care less about this relationship. Do you really want to be with someone like that and to continue being treated like dirt? When was the last time he hung out with you? It's a big red flag that this is happening 3 months into this relationship.
I know Facebook is a big deal at your age, so his relationship status shouldn't say he's married to his girl friend, it should say "in a relationship (your name)".
You could try talking him, and telling him that you don't feel that how he talks to her is appropriate. Also, how he blows you off to hang out with his girl friends is unacceptable. He can obviously have girl friends, it's just that he shouldn't always be putting them before you. Possibly work out days that he can hang out with his friends and time that he can spend with you. However, I don't think there's any reasoning with him. DON'T settle for being treated with no respect. This guy DOESN'T respect you.
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