| A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: I’m annoyed with my bf but also annoyed with myself. Went out with some friends (N and his girlfriend, S) the other night. S said to N ‘have you noticed anything different about me?’ To which N said ‘yes, you’ve dyed your hair, etc’. Anyway, she was really pleased he noticed and they were all lovey-dovey. I was looking at them thinking I wish my bf and I were like that. My boyfriend started joking to his friends ‘it’s a good thing he noticed pretty quick otherwise there could have been trouble!!!’ (words along that line, etc).I had my hair dyed 4 weeks ago and my bf has not noticed or said a thing! Granted it is quite subtle and very few people have noticed (personally I don’t know how people cannot have noticed; I have had some lovely red, brown and blonde streaks put in).My bf has commented on how nice his ex girlfriend’s hair looked and yet not even noticed mine. To be fair it is subtle but I still can’t believe it. I really wanted to say something like point to my hair and say something like ‘4 weeks ago’ but I didn’t want to create a scene. I’m kicking myself now!!!
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, his ex, notice me Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): Hey
Some people, not just guys, are like this. They arn't actively observant of changes that their partner makes.
If I were you, I'd probably hint to something along the lines of "Hey, have you noticed any thing different about my hair?" and if they say no, you have permission to beat them. But if they say yes, and compliement you, I'm sure you will feel much better.
How about you have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him how much it means to you for him to notice things about you when you have something done different about yourself? You could tell him that wouldn't he feel good if he had bought some new clothes and you saw them and immediately said "Hey boyfriend, you look so great in that!" I think something like that would make him think.
I am guessing that your boyfriend just hasn't had this kind of conversation before, so that is why he doesn't think to say any thing, or is not perseptive to noticing anything different about you.
Or perhaps he just isn't the kind of person to pick up and notice these things, and not the type of person to complement if he does? Innocent mistake, or just his personality, you know him best.
All the best.
|
