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writes: My partner and I haven't had any sort of sexual intimacy for nine months now. Every time I ask or try to initiate sex he just says he doesn't feel like sex. He says he still loves me, which I believe he is being honest about as we do get along together. He also says that he does still fancy me and finds me attractive and when he does feel like sex it is allways at inappropriate moments or I'm asleep or out.I know that sex isnt everything but I need the intimacy from the sexual side of the relationship. We used to have sex regularly and it was fantastic. I've tried talking about it with him but I just get the same answers and he never does anything about it.What should I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): First of all, find out the root cause of your husbands turn on times. You may want to rethink your definition of inappropriate times. For example, does he wake up earlier than you do? 90% of normal males experience morning erections this is the time to take advantage if you want more sex.Honestly, it sounds like he is tired of suggesting sex and is feeling hurt by your rejections. He has left initiating sex to you. But there is a down side, since he does not feel like he has some control of his sex life, he is in "pout mode". Talk with him again. Tell him how its making you feel if he doesn't respond you might want to consider couples therapy to get to the root.
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