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writes: i am 21 years old in my first real relationship with a guy i really love. the thing is he cant seem to get hard enough for us to have sex. we have been together a year and a half n never had sex. he doesnt drink, smoke or isnt undr any stress. its getting difficult now cause he is getting very frustrated with himself. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): condoms often make guys go a little soft. Try giving him a hand job with it on.
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reader, CRS698 +, writes (3 September 2006):
 Hi there, The worst thing that you could do would be to make it an issue, that would make it worse for him. This is anxiety on his part because he really wants to please you, so hes putting himself under pressure.
Why not agree together that you wont have full sex (or even try to)for a while, just touching, that would take the pressure off him (and after a little while when youre together and he gets excited due to not being under any pressure, do it, but let him initiate it)
I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): This may sound gross, but are you tight enough or were you sexual enough in his eyes? When I was with a particular girl in the past, it was rare I got super hard. It was mainly erect but still soft a bit. She wasn't tight at all, only when she orgasmed. She was very passive in sex, or when she finally tried doing something, her inexperience and unwillingness to experiment, etc, turned me off.
Then again, it's possible there are other physical ailments that are on his side. You two might want to consider visiting a sex counsellor or a physician that deals in this sort of thing.
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