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41-50,
anonymous
writes:There's probably no way I can post this question without you thinking I'm insecure or irrational.I don't consider myself to be either, in relationships I definately like my space and the biggest problem I have come up against is ex's not giving me any space in a relationship. I'm quite independant and need my own time with family/friends, combined with spending time with my boyfriend.So here goes. I've been dating my boyfriend 5 months. We dated last year for 4 months when he became very ill and almost could have been life threatening - he needed time to find himself again and fix himself, so we ended on good terms. He looked me up a little while back, been inseperable ever since.Until about a week ago. How do you go from someone wanting to see you every other day or so, texting lovely things and calling you often, to receiving one call a day, if that?When I see him, he's the same. Loving and caring and seemingly so into me. But the texting and calling came to such an abrupt stop!I did ask him, and he said he didn't realise.It actually makes me feel quite insecure when I'm not with him...Then when I see him I feel 110% better...Then he cycle repeats.We had a make or break conversation, about whether we want the same thing in the future. I told him I would rather end now than stay together wanting different things. He strongly protested in us breaking up and agreed we do want the same things.Argh...So confused, emotional rollercoaster...Sometimes I feel like walking away even though I do very much love him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 December 2009):
Men do find women confusing. Perhaps he just thought you weren't interested in the texts and such. That often happens. You spoke to him and he seems to have got the message, so as long as he's showing you he loves you, I don't think you need to worry.
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