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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now, and are very much in love. So much so that a lot of drama went down before we could be together, we had secretly been in love with each other for 6 months until he told me, he dumped his girlfriend for me and I had stopped talking to my friend as she went crazy jealous because she was in love with him and he didn't feel the same way about her. We have been through a lot and I have been lied to in the past and I know his feelings are mutual.Although it was early, I did have sex with him after the first month, it was my first time, I wasn't pressured into it, I wanted it to be with him even though everyone said it was too early to do so, it felt right. I went to his last week and while we were in his bedroom his phone started to ring, he picked it up, looked at the screen and put his back to me so I couldn't see it while he let it ring out. When he went downstairs I looked at the phone, didn't find who the call was off but looked at his messages and found txts from 'boobs' who I don't know, but his ex-girlfriend is well known for her ample chest size! When he came back, he looked at his phone and took it to the toilet with him.He had been texting me less lately and I think that is why. Have I given him what he wanted to soon? Is he sick of me already?He keeps saying that he'll spoil me because I haven't been treated nicely in the past and he has spent like £300 on my birthday present which is in 2 weeks which I guess is jewelry from the hints he gave me, and he keeps saying that he loves me (on txts) but is that just so he can butter me up so I don't suspect anything? I don't want to confront him because it would hurt him too much, my life had finally been going really well but I dont know what to do anymore.
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reader, pebble +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Well at some point you're going to have to question him about it - otherwise it's going to drive you mad! I think it's clear that there's something going on here. A £300 birthday present after 2 months screams 'guilty conscience' to me. You said he dumped his last girlfriend for you so how long will it be before he dumps you for the next one? I suggest you get in there first before he has the chance to hurt you.After that, I suggest you go crawling back to the friend you binned for this ass and remind her what a lucky escape she had and that you're sorry for not only getting with the guy she liked but also 'dumping' her for having an opinion on it. Then you can both laugh about your poor judjement and move on.But of course, try not to hurt him TOO much...tut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Trust your gut on this one
ul know who you love =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): I think he does love me, but every time we're out he flirts with everyone, even my friend said to me "why are you letting that go on?" but I have to accept it because he's always like that, even though it kills me every time.
I have recently had an argument with this guy who used to be my best friend in lower school, we only just met back up again and became mates like a year ago, we had a really bad argument because of him and last night he told me he loved me, I knew before and now I can't help but think that I made the wrong decision that can't be undone because he doesnt want to speak to me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): £300 on a birthday present? That sounds a bit excessive! If it's jewellery, if I were you I'd go and have it valued at a reputable jewellers to see if he's telling porkies. Woolworths isn't there any more but they had a reputation for selling imitation jewellery that looked expensive but cost peanuts. You only reralised it was rubbish when it left a green ring around your finger or your neck.Anyway, he's got you on the go as well as at least one other woman. But I forgot - you don't want to hurt him by bringing the subject up. Dear God! Wake up girl! He's shagging anything with a pulse but you can't see that you're one among many.Be careful you don't hurt his delicate feelings.
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