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anonymous
writes:After asking my partner a simple question (a faulty kettle) last week we ended up having a big argument about our relationship and how he wants to be on his own, how i grind him to the ground (i can assure you i do nothing of the sort- really!) swearing at me and telling me to leave, its his house etc... I was quite shocked really. However, as we were having building work done i realised this extra pressure and disruption wouldnt be something he could cope with very well! He was as i would say 'out of order' and along came his 'i dont care!' Sounds pathetic when i see it written down, but it hurts. He didnt want to talk about it later that night and hasnt mentioned it since. What do i do? Do i chance another personal attack by raising the subject or do i just leave it? (He suffers from depression)Any replies gratefully received, but i think i just needed to get this of my chest! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): i think youu shouild leave him hes not worth it !!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Depression is a horrible self centred illness and the thoughts and feelings that anyone else has mean nothing to you, you are so absorbed that your life is crap, that you don't notice how your behaviour affects those around you.
Has he been diagnosed with depression, and is he medicated for it? Recognition is the first step.
I am not defending his behaviour by any means and I think confronting him is a good idea, it will probably cause a row and maybe go and stay with your parents, he'll soon realise that he's in the wrong and will want you back. Then you can set some ground rules between you.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 As a guy, it sounds like this took the two of you, whilst you're blaming it primarily on him. Your simple question about the kettle could have been the last in a long line of (sorry have to use the word) nagging questions that drove him nuts. Not saying you were wrong to ask by the way, just that how you did it might be causing part of the problem.
It works both ways.
It reads like one of the classic male / female interactions. Have you read 'Men are from Mars, women are from Venus'? I recommend it for your situation.
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