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writes:My boyfriend has no interest in sex anymore. It's been within the past year. He always had trouble keeping his hands off me, and now theres is nothing. We have sex about once every 1-2 months. I remember me telling him to cool it down cause i was getting sore, but i never said to stop. I am afraid that he isn't attracted to me anymore. It's like he a eunich. He has absolutely no interest. What could this be? We're both still young. I feel so hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 December 2008):
This sounds like my first boyfriend. He just seemed to go off me and only wanted sex when he wanted sex, never because he wanted me.
He used to tell me I shouldn't try to be sexy as that wasn't who I was.
If he doesn't see you as sexy any more then he just sees you as a friend with cuddles included. Not all relationships are like this. If you can't settle for what you have at the moment then tell your boyfriend he has to make more effort or it's not going to work.
I know that's hard when you are serious about him but you can't stay unhappy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the insight. In the past I never had to ask, he always came to me, which helped cause i had difficulty asking. Now I've gotten over my shyness and I'm blatantly doing everything i can. He just says hes not in the mood. Sexy clothes, groping, begging, nothing works. He only does something when his body wants it, but doing it for the fun isn't his thing anymore. I don't know if i can deal with this if we plan to spend the rest of our lives together.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 December 2008):
This happens in lots of relationships so don't feels it's something personal that you are doing wrong.
What does he do when you make a move on him in sexy clothing? When you give him an unexpected snog how does he react?
Does he just seem to want to cuddle or does he actually push you away?
You can a lot from his reaction, whether he's just not in the mood, whether he sees you as more of a friend, or whether the relationship may just have run its course and be coming to an end.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): not to scare u but he could be having some else where (he could be cheating on you) maybe talk to him about why and see what he say,
good luck x
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