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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating a guy for 6 months. Everything was going smoothly, we both agreed to take things slow as we both have difficulty opening up to new people. He always complimented me, he was always punctual. Lately this has changed along with a few other things. He is always late for our dates now, not very late but about 15 minutes, I'm always waiting for him. He also stopped complimenting me and I feel like he is not making an effort anymore, its like he doesn't care what I think of him now. Even his tone of voice changed, the way he speaks to me. He's not rude or nasty, but it's just not as sweet. He is also much quieter in himself than he used to be, he was always very talkative. The sex is the only thing that has improved and he is still affectionate, but the other things indicate a lack of interest. I am very certain that he doesn't have another woman, but could he be losing interest? Suffering from depression or am I just seeing the real guy at this stage and the guy up to now was an act? Or maybe I'm being petty/ childish?Also I plan to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to say this to him without sounding like a child complaining about not getting enough attenton. I should also mention we are not 'in a relationship' we have yet to have that talk.I would really appreciate some insight from you guys on this please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2015): I would advise you to sit down with him and be open and honest. Talk about all the concerns you have told us about in your post and allow him to give you his side of the story. Never assume anything. Always communicate. Assumptions and lack of communication could seriously jeopardize a relationship. You have needs too and he should be able to meet them or compromise in some way. If he really cares, he will.My BF hates texting but he will text me because he knows I like it and it makes me feel good. For awhile I was feeling ignored or like he didn't care because he doesn't text a whole lot so I asked him about why he does not text a lot. He said it isn't his way, he hates texting etc. He said it has nothing to do with his feelings for me. Some guys might not be as demonstrative as you and some may have no clue they are even acting a certain way. Until you tell them. So I told him how I like it and need it. So he changed for me. Of course he doesn't send me a million texts a day but he does it for me.Your BF may not know how you feel. And if given a chance, he may change his behaviours to make you happy. But also realize they are guys. Not women. Lol
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