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writes:I'm so confused. There was a guy I had been seeing a while back but I wasn't in a good place in my life and we stopped talking. We started talking again later on but I had just move over an hour away and had no car or anything so we never hung out. I started seeing someone else shortly after that. Someone that was local so I guess it was just more convienient. I recently moved back to the city where the first guy lives and decided to contact him via facebook because I have some regrets regarding not giving us a fair chance. I wrote him saying that I moved back to town and thought we should hang out. He didn't read the message for about a month but he accepted my frieend request. I also put my number in the message. I was debating whether or not I should call him until I saw that he read the message a few days ago and didn't reply. I don't know where to go from here. His number is listed on facebook. Do I try to call him despite him not replying to my facebook message. Or do I leave it alone? Do I write him again and just explain to him that I'm sorry for how I ended things before and that if its not to late I would like to hang out and see if the connection is still there. Do I write him again at all. I feel like I need to do something to explain because at least then I know I tried and would have nothing to regret by not puitting in the effort like in the past. I kind of feel that calling would be out of the bounderies because if he really wanted to talk at this point he has access to my number or could have wrote back. So should I just leave it alone and let it be or should I write one last time to explain what I'm feeling snd apologizing for my actions in the past and then just let go if I don't hear from him. Any advice would be appreciated. As I said before he is the one regret I have in life. Well not him but me not giving him the chance he wanted and deserved. I'm in a different point in my life than I was in the previous times we were seeing eachother. And I'm at a point that I would act on it if given the chance. I understand it may be too late and I guess I'm ok with that as long as I know I tried. I just don't know how to get a response from him. Even a f*/! You at this point would be something.
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reader, krysndj +, writes (8 September 2012):
krysndj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice. I know I should have just called but I didn't want to make it weird because I got his number from facebook. I wrote the letter a month ago and he just read it a few days ago so I will takeall of your advice and wait it out and hope that he will decide to reach out to me. We didn't end things with a huge fight but I know he was hurt by my decision to persue someone else just because that person was closer and more convenient. Thank you all again for the help.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2012):
 I agree with SVC - you put the ball in his court. He didn't pick it up, so you need to let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): I have actually been in a situation like that before. I had a female friend that was in a bad place as well then one day we got into a huge fight and I didn't talk to her for a whole year. One day she messaged me on Facebook and I didn't reply back for two whole weeks. The mistake we all make is messaging through text, Facebook, and that's because it's a safe way to avoid conflict. Next time (if you are ever in another situation that involves wanting to rekindle a relationship) I would say just call first because talking to someone over a phone is way more personnel than a message. But for now give it some time and give him space. Depending on how it ended between y'all it will be awhile before he decides his next move. If he doesn't do anything just take Soveryconfused advice and just let it go. Good Luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 September 2012):
 you made the attempt.. he's read the message.. he knows where to find you...
let it go...
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