A
female
age
30-35,
*erenityjohnson
writes:I am 17 years old and have a male friend who is 35, i really like him but we can't be together because i am not yet 18 and plus we live in a very small town of about a 750 pop. and there would be problems, he is known to be a player, he is married/separated, and has 4 kids. I have had sex with him 3 times and it was just too great and i believe that this is why i'm so addicted i'll say...how can i stop having fantasy's and thinking about him...someone help me because no matter how i try not to think of him....I DO!!!!
View related questions:
affair, player Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, previasc96 +, writes (23 April 2008):
Stay away from this guy. He will never leave his family for you. you'll only end up hurt in the end.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): You know what he is already.
Either face it and get away from him before he wrecks your life, or you stay with him and watch yourself become another wrecked person he toys with and eventually leaves behind.
If you stay with him and the mess is made, then I think you have nobody to blame but yourself.
I'm not defending him or calling him innocent at all. But the fact is that if you can even write this question, then deep down you know better about this situation already. Either you will act on you knowledge, or you will lie to yourself, stay in the situation, and eventually get hurt.
If you were mature enought to sleep with a grown man, then you have to be mature enough to do the unpleasant things too. Like breaking up with him for your own good.
...............................
A
female
reader, serenityjohnson +, writes (3 April 2008):
serenityjohnson is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR RESPONSES...I'VE BEEN TEMPTED TO CALL HIM, BUT EVERYTIME I GET THAT TEMPTATION I JUST READ YA'LL RESPONSES...THANKS...GOD BLESS...:)
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 April 2008):
 Well, 750 people is indeed a small town. I guess he's running out of options for finding new girls, so he's reaching down into the teenaged set.
Players are so charming and handsome and witty and good in bed, that's how they can keep finding women to have sex with. The problem is that you don't have a lot of experience with men like this, men who take advantage of your innocence and trust.
Judge him by his actions, not his actions with you, but by his actions towards his wife and his children. If he's separated from his wife, then my guess is that there's a very good reason for that. You need to figure it out. Put some of your obsessing about him into thinking about why he has failed relationships in his past and why he has this reputation for being a player. There are really big giant red flags here, so start thinking about this a little logically, don't get swept up in this passion. It could hurt you quite badly, and you'll be one of the women a player leaves in his trail.
Good luck and think smart!
...............................
A
male
reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 Hi
do you want to be the mother to his fifth child? Guys like these spread their seed throughout town and leave behind a trail of destruction where ever they go.
He is addictive because he is a master at what he does, it's all he lives for, and you at 17 are a new prized possession for the moment. But once he gets your pregnant or gets bored of you , he will simply move on.
Maybe you can be one girl who moves him on for once.
Put it down to experience, and try and meet someone a little closer to you in age for a more equable relationship, one where you can actually make plans for your future.
Good luck
...............................
A
female
reader, {*HyPa~AzN~hUnNiE~*}  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 well think of it this way, he is 35, and seems to have a high sex drive which means he will loose his libido earlier and will soon become sexually feeble and impotent. now would u want some1 lyk that??
xxx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hi Hunny
You will think of him as thats the way he works sweetheart, He will leave you with something to think about. Older and not so wise is he, Hunny do yourself a huge favour and as much as it hurts and as much as your mind works overtime keep away from him...He has probably been like this all through his marriage hence why he is separated. He is used to this its just a game to him, How many other girls is he playing with sweetheart..Have your fantasy but keep clear thats my advice hun before you get really hurt..TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
...............................
|
