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writes:I'm 30 weeks pregnant and im scared my boyfriend has gone off me. He used to be the one who chased me all the time now i seem to be the one chasing him. He is in the army and he gets 3 weeks off in august and is going on a lads holiday, is this wrong? as im coming so close to the end of my pregnancy of september 29th. He said he will be spending more time with me when the baby is here, feels like he is using me and only with me for the babies sake. Ive tryed talking to him but he just says im being silly. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): You're at home pregnant and instead of spending his precious break with the person he is supposed to love more than anyone else in the world and who is the mother of his child, he's buggering off to drink and party with the boys? That is unacceptable, in my books. He's showing you what his priorities are here, and they're obviously not you and your baby - I'm guessing you can expect the same lack of interest and involvement from him after you have the baby, sadly.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 July 2008):
Well it could be he's going on a lads holiday as a kind of stag night... he's thinking he'll have a big blow out because once the baby comes he'll be up at 3am helping you with the feeds and be spending all his money on nappies.
A couple of weeks in August is not going to get in the way of the birth in late September.
Plus, as you say, he is in the army, and that means his mates have to be really really close to him as they are the ones who will keep him alive when he goes out to Iraq / Afghanistan.
Let him go and have a great time, don't be too clingy, and let him know you'll be having a great time having Virgin Mary cocktails (like a bloody mary but non-alcoholic) in the garden with your mates while he's gone. Make sure he keeps his phone on him at all times in case of emergency and make sure you have his holiday details so the holiday company can get hold of him if you need them to. Also make sure he knows you expect a really nice present when he comes back!
Being an army girlfriend is horrible, trust me, I have the T-shirt. It gets a lot better once you are a wife as you get a lot of welfare support.
Good Luck!! xx
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