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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My finance loves to drink.he wont go one week without drinking and it can carry on for days.It causing problems in all areas of his life such as our relationship, jobs and his health. he admitted he has a problem before and went to an AA meeting. I think he only done it to get me back though.few days later he was working away and was out drinking again. He lies about a lot of things due to his problem. I love him so much and wish he would just get proper help and recover but theirs a good chance he will never change. I broke up with him today and i know im going to find it hard but i know its the right thing to do. is their anyone out their with a similar problem and manage to get their partner to see sense?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 December 2015):
 You done the right thing breaking up with him. He needs to see that because off his drinking he has lost you. If he cares enough about you and your relationship then he will get the help that he needs.
Maybe there is underlying problems why he is drinking but only he can help himself. I hope he can get the help that he needs, but you have done the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2015): You can't "get" anyone to do anything he wouldn't otherwise be inclined to do.
You can't help anyone who is unwilling to help himself.
You can't change the person someone is into the person you want him to be.
It's going to be hard making a clean break but it will be even harder if you stay with him.
For further information I suggest you contact Al-Anon which provides support to anyone whose life has been affected by someone else's drinking.
http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2015): You did the right thing by breaking up with him. He is in self denial. Your too young to be tied up in this mess and he's too young to be an alcoholic. Only himself can figure this out. You tried. Please move on.
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