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writes:Been with my boyfriend 7 months. got together with him shortly after a very hard and hurtful relationship.He was there for me and lovely. fell in love quickly and were sooo happy for 6 months. he gone weird the last month and distant. MORE INFO IN A PREVIOUS QUESTION "My boyfriend's gone distant and I don't know why!"I hadnt heard from him at all yesterday so I went round to his house.He was there with a friend but in stead of saying hello he just stared at me! and looked away. I then went because i was so hurt and upset that i cudnt cope with the situation.He then text " whats up with you?"I cant believe he doesnt know what is up! I havent heard or seen him in over a week and he wondered what was wrong!?I have given him space and that hasnt worked. so then i text and told him that he hadnt bothered with me all week and that i was upset.He then text me: " Soz, u been in long. I been busy"to which i said : " if your busy tell me and i know not to worry. ive been in an hour"Then i got a weird text : "Have i? how did u know?"To which i said what u on about?"Then i had no msg.So i said: " Everyone has to work but it doesnt mean you have to neglect me!"Then i asked if he would come and talk 2 me and see me! and that he was losing me!"He just put: "Busy"So i told him that : " I know whats more important to you now. Not me! Uve lost me"I have not heard from him since and i am now scared that he is done with me forever!I dont want to not be with him as I love him soooo much!!I just dont understand why he has done this to me!?Somebody please help me talk this through! cus i feel like my heart has torn apart and that i want to die! xx
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reader, jackie69 +, writes (5 June 2008):
jackie69 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I do reckon someone has said something but i realy dont know what.if he will believe what others say over what i do then he isnt worth it.i have told him how he has hurt me not telling me in person and i have never seen him since. He is ashamed of himself i reckon.never told me he didnt love or want just that he wanted to b friends and didnt want a gf and it was nothing id done.There we are. time will see if he comes back to me or not now.ive got to take me time now and let my feelings heal and look after myself
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Hi Jackie, sorry to hear of your distress. I don't what to tell you that can help but that time will eventually make the break up pain go away.
In reading your posts, I started to think about why he was behaving in the way he is. Now, he could just be a complete jerk with no feelings whatsoever, and I could be wrong in this, but it sounds to me like someone has told him a lie about you.
There's just something about the way he's cut you that suggests that to me. This happened to me in high school years ago, and it wasn't until about 20 years later that the boy in question told me he'd stopped all contact with me because one of his mates told a lie about me to him, and he believed it. So I have my suspicions about your case because of the blunt and abrupt way he's been dealing with you...
I don't know what you can do to fix it, but if you have mutual friends, you might get one to ask him about it. But don't get your hopes up.
Take care.
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reader, jackie69 +, writes (4 June 2008):
jackie69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel so used and abused as this is only my second experience of a relationship and it being sexual and intimate is what hurts the most about it all.
Like as though i have just been a figure to exploit and use.
He got after me initialy in the relationship and wooed me. now to turn around and say he doesnt want a gf is realy strange dnt u think?
I cud do with some real help here, i am cracking up!
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reader, jackie69 +, writes (4 June 2008):
jackie69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is over now!
Yesterday I tried ringing him to see how he was and he wouldnt answer.
then i received a text: "Y u ringing me?"
To which i said: just wondering how u r im sorry"
to which he says: im busy for the rest of the week working."
So I thought to myself i need to know the answer: Am i still your girlfriend? because u dnt treat me like i mean that much 2 u anymore. just give me an answer"
Then i get: " theres not much point is there"
to which i tried to ring him and ask what he meant and he jst swore at me and said he wasnt talking about it!
so later i sent a msg saying i am not being swore at like that and that i dnt apologise 4 missing him and wanting to love him.
To which i just get a reply: Wud rather we were just friends. dont want a gf. its nothing youve done. sorry its just how i feel"
How he feels? what about me? Why have i been dragged along by him if he had no intention of sticking it out!
So i then sent him a message saying: so u dnt love me anymore and would be fine with it if i went out with someone else?" Never had a reply to it!!!
I realy do love him and dont know what has happened to us!
3 weeks ago he was saying how he wanted to be with me forever and wanted kids and to get married and then more or less overngt he didnt want to spk to me or see me!
can anyone give me light on the situation?
should i confront him and make him tell me to my face its over. because i dont believe he doesnt feel anytrhing for me anymore!!!???
please help!!!
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reader, Lolapink +, writes (1 June 2008):
 It sounds like the end. It's probably not love that you are feeling for him it's more safety since you left a hurtful relationship. And now that the newness of this relationship has worn off you see how he really is. It's unfortunate but things are not looking good. Personally I hate the idea of guys using girls and not having the courage to end it so I say take revenge and make him remember what he did to you. I suggest getting him a subscription to a gay magazine and have it sent to his house or job. I know that's mean but he was mean to you and I am tired of women being expected to sit back and take it all the time. I mean think it over for a couple of days before you do it so not to be rash.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 Hi there,
I know you are hurting and its a very hard thing that you are going through. Would it be possible for you to ask him directly if your relationship is over?
He is not being fair to you, i am sorry to say i think the relationship is over sweetheart, he is not treating you with the respect that you deserve. I think he does not want to be in the relationship any longer and does not have the guts to say it to your face and doing it cruel way possible.
You have to go through so many frogs to meet your prince. I have seen this with my friends in the past and its always a sign that the man wants to break up, but they ended up meeting wonderful guys in the end.
Sorry...i hope this helps..i know its hard for you, but i just wanted to give you my honest opinion on this one.
Try to move on..if he wants you bad enough, he knows where to find you.
Take care and i hope things get better for you.
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