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writes:I consider myself to be pretty fit; I work out 5 days a week in the mornings before work (sometimes gym, sometimes jogging), and many weekends I'm doing some other kind activity whether it's biking or hiking. I LOVE food, but try to limit myself from indulging too much, and usually I limit my intake of meat quite a bit.I'm about 5'2 and 115 lbs.I've been dating a guy who has a quite different outlook when it comes to these things. He is not as physically active as I am and doesn't always eat healthy (though, to be fair, I don't eat healthy a lot of the times!) He admitted to not remembering the last time he worked out.His idea of fun is going out to a new restaurant, the movies, or social spots. I enjoy these things too! And while I enjoy doing those things, he doesn't enjoy more outdoorsy things like I do.After dating me for a while, he brought up that he would start working out. He's not started.He's 6'4 and 240 lbs. He is an entire foot above me and twice my weight.Yet, for some reason, I am very attracted to him. I find him charming, cute, and he makes me smile. I love cuddling up with him. We are hanging out almost constantly in our free time and I see us moving on and becoming intimate very quickly...And that's where I have a fear. Because he is so much larger than me, I'm terrified sex will be awkward or uncomfortable. And to be honest, I've never really been that sexually active. I could really use some advice or comments on how to make things go smoothly!I really like this guy... very much. He's a total sweetheart. Even if we do make an odd couple. We talk intimately a little bit, but have yet to act upon it.Advice please!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (4 January 2014):
 I don't think you're an odd couple. My brother and his wife have a similar difference in height and it didn't stop them producing three children (all taller than their mum and still growing - a running joke!).
Don't worry about the physical side of things. He won't squash you. At first you can try being on top so you have some control and don't feel terrified, then experiment.
Regarding working out: well that's an aside really. He might shed some pounds, but be might also get more muscular. So that's more of a lifestyle difference, and if it doesn't bother you that he doesn't work out there's no problem.
Good luck, and I'm glad you found a sweetheart!
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reader, like I see it +, writes (4 January 2014):
 My dad is 6'5" and my mom is 5'3"... they've been married for almost 30 years and have three kids together. Size does not have to be a deal-breaker!
If and when you two become intimate I think you will quickly discover what works and what doesn't. If your partner is in reasonably good shape and able to support his upper body with his forearms, most of his body weight should be off you anyway, even during missionary. But if the missionary position is uncomfortable for one or both of you, there are many alternatives that don't involve your partner resting most or all of his weight on you during sex.
Cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, and "doggy" style all eliminate the need for him to lie directly on top of you. If you're looking for a position where you're face to face and he's still on "top," you can try lying face up with your bum at the very edge of a bed or sofa and letting him enter you while he's standing. This way he can face you, lean forward and kiss you, etc... all while still supporting his own body weight.
Hope this helps! Good luck and best wishes :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 January 2014):
 Size is relative. your hearts are about the same size and your souls are identical in size/spirit ..forget the "odd couple" thing. That's perception problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): My boyfriend is bigger than me and we make it work... You just have to talk and try it out! Keep talking, be open minded and find what works for you. Sex is only awkward and uncomfortable when you make it that way.
My ex was very athletic and slim and I was really nervous the first time I slept with my current boyfriend who is quite cuddly, on how it would 'work' ... but it turns out that sex is sex, we had to move about a bit at first, but we found what worked for us both.
Don't rush into sleeping with him, take is slow and when you do, relax and enjoy yourself.
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