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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:so hurt scared and angry overall confused. last week i told this guy that i like that i had a dream about him i didnt tell him what the dream was about. im gonna tell him ne time i see him i couldnt tell him then cuz i had to leave the dream is no big deal. i am conflicted between my mind and my heart cuz he has whar i call a bad past which im sure he is not over with yet. he is a cheater and considerin he run into his exs all the time. im not to worried about them. its him that concerns me i dont think i can change him n i dont think he wants to change but my heart is in love with him i get so excited when i hear his name or know im gonna see him like i ran into him at school we spoke for awhile and then my heart wouldnt stop pounding.whereas my mind makes me google stuff about cheaters to learn why he would do such a thing and how can i assist him in changing himself. but i always subconciously know he is not gonna change. i have liked him for the whole of 2009 havent done anything with him. so my question is how do i get him out my system when im so attracted to him? e used to like me and i think now he is just attracted to me we neve spoke to each other about our feelings cuz i used to run from him lol i know veryimmature of me. but i was always attracted and felt as tho if i spoke to him he wud say what i wanna hear and make me fall for him. i jus wanna get him out my system for 2010 how do i do that? i already try to meet new people and go out with friends but at the end of the day it always comes back to him. how do i let him go?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 February 2010):
If you like a guy like this, then chances are your own esteem is low. Generally, women with low esteem fancy guys like this because they believe they can either change them, or that they can't do better. So look in a mirror and convince yourself you can do better. Which you can. You can either be a nobody to a guy like this, or a somebody to another guy.
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