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writes:Hi guys,I am confused. I am in a LDR, and he is very attentive, as soon as he sees me online he starts a conversation straight away, sends me photo's of himself and is very loving and caring. He makes me feel special and very loved. What is confusing me is that he tells me how much he cares, he talks to me when his friends are over and makes me feel as though I am part of his life, and tells me how he is always thinking about me, but he won't be friends with me on facebook, why? I sent him a friend request and he accepted it, but then it comes up as add him as a friend again, so obviously he added me and deleted me straight away. He says he has been having trouble with facebook, and he doesn't go on it much. Do you think this means anything? I just don't understand it, we talk on messenger though because we both prefer it, should I be worried? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): I just had a similar situation and I was actually going to break up with my boyfriend of 5 months because to me - he was playing games. It's not that he wouldn't add me as a friend, but he wouldn't put "in a relationship" oe link his page to mine.
He finally changed it when we had a fight about it.
I told him - if you are being 100% honest with me - that I'm the one you love and want to be with - then you should have nothing to hide.
LDR is hard enough; he should be making every effort to make you feel secure in the relationship and a big part of that is trust !
Try to add him again and if he says no. Confront him. Ask him what is really going on and tell him your not going to stand for shadiness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your replies, I appreciate the help and I will consider what you have said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): It has happened to me too. I noticed that one of my friend deleted me from his list I asked his wife, that is aslo my friend, that why he did it? is there any problem or something? and he added me again and said he has no Idea what happened. After 2 weeks i noticed he is not in my list again, I didnt say anything because i thought maybe he doesnt want to, and the next day he was in my list. I didnt add him but he was there. something is wrong with facebook...but then again it doesnt justify it you never know that if he deletes it or not!
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (3 May 2011):
I agree that sometimes facebook does have glitches, but I have never had a problem with facebook deleting one of my friends without my consent. Maybe it has happened to others, but im just speaking from personal experience.
In my opinion, from reading what you wrote, it really sounds like he is trying to hide something. On facebook, you can find out A LOT about a person. From the pictures they're tagged in, to relationship status' to even browsing the history of someones wall. Maybe he doesn't want you to find out things about him just yet, and doesn't know how to say that.
Then again, he could be giong out partying and cheating on you and doesn't want you to see the facebook pictures that prove that.
He could also even be dating someone right now without you knowing.
There could be many many reasons. But in opinion, go with your gut feeling.
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