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writes:I have a problem. i am in a relatinship with a very nice kind and genuine guy. we've already been together for a year! the trouble is he is 38yrs and i am 20yrs. i love being with him, he's everything i ever wanted in a guy! but it gets deeper. I met him as i work on cruise ships as a dancer in production shows, and i met him when i was 19 and on my very first ship! now we are still together and on my second ship with him also. he is also a dancer. he also has a 14yr old son and lives in mexico and i live all the way over in the U.K. Our contract doesn't finish for a while yet, but i have had doubts for a lot of this year about where things are and can really possibly go? I don't really know exactly what my plans are for when i finish cruise ships but i am pretty much thinking of going back to school. Possibly, or doing something back in the u.k to do with my dancing. He on the other hand wants to start a company/business with his friends back in mexico but also wants me to come with him. I am young and flirty and sometimes feel restricted by him, just because he's older and obviously possessive when he sees me even talking to a younger guy. i love him with all my heart i really do! Is this me being stupid, what do i do? i share a cabin with this guy and work with him all the time. I'm so confused, but i dont know whether i should end it at the end of this contract or stay together and hope that it works. There have been times where i have been extrememly unhappy just worrying about my future and its stressing me out! p.s i cant leave this job and neither can he. annonymous america
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reader, Westcoastgal +, writes (10 September 2007):
Well, I can honestly say I understand your dilemma. I worked on cruise ships for over 7 years and understand the life. Have the 2 of you spent time together on vacation? Do you know what he is like when he is on land? People are different when on ships and when on land..Right now, you guys are always together and it sounds like you really have no privacy or time to yourself to figure out what you want to do.I think that he is too old for you. You are so young and have so much ahead of you.You have a lot of ambition about wanting to dance and do things in the UK. If you do not do these things, you will always regret it, and you will in turn regret him.
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