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writes:I have been with my husband for 4 years and have been married 2. He is a very good husband and I feel that I should be happy but I'm not. I used to be excited when he got home from work or if he called me but I'm not anymore.I feel like I should want him around like before. It just feels like the feelings I used to have aren't there anymore. I've felt this way for about a year now. Should I feel like this so early in our marriage? I just feel like packing my stuff and leaving, but I feel bad to hurt him.What do I do? Stay or go? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I know exactly how you feel, as I am going through exactly the same thing, in fact I have been with my husband and married for the same amount of time.I think you should at least try to make things work, have you spoken to your husband about how you feel? Maybe he will appreciate the honesty. Maybe he's even feeling the same way. It sounds like he's a good man and worth the effort.Best of luck to you
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (9 August 2008):
Well, it is kind of worrying that you've thought of leaving, but maybe you should change your thought process a bit. Unfortunately the others are right, the butterflies and all the other fuzzy stuff, does go away after a while but it's normally replaced with a warm, content feeling for the other person. This should be a good thing. I don't know how many relationships you've had in the past but it will happen with EVERY person you're involved with,matter of fact. You might not think so, initially, but it will happen. Keep that in mind when you make your decision and try to find ways of bringing back that sparkly feelings you had for your husband. Give it some time though. We all go though phases, some longer than others, but give it another shot and see what happens. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): I think what you are going through is normal. Marriage is hard work, now you need to work on it. You are just caught up in the everyday life. You need to do things to spice things up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Dear Sweetie...I am so sorry that you are going through this. But like other Agony Aunts have stated befor, love isn't about butterflys..but it is about a mutual love and respect for each other. If you have researched all aspects of helping your marriage (Marriage Counsaling, Cleargy, theraphy, ect..) and all of these things haven't worked, then yes, divorce is the answer, but if not, you need to do all the work you can to save your marriage. Best of luck Sugar Booger!
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