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writes:why does he insult my family and friends, or make cruel remarks, jokes about them. and even gets angry this happens on most days. i get so upset and down about it.This has been going on for over four years and i do not live with him, but have finished our relationship about five times over the last few years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): What was his childhood home like? Most bullyies and abusive men are taught to behave in such a manner.
You don't have to pity him but you do need to tell him you won't stand for it.
You need to tell him that his remarks are cruel and hurtful and you know that is why he says them.
You need to tell him is your anger against me or is it from your childhood?
Do you really think this is how two adults in love behave?
Is this you respecting me? Do you think this makes me happy and trust you?
You have to accept that he is older and set in his ways and if he does not desire to change his abusive manner-you need to leave him.
His abuse will wear you down and his attacks will get more pronounced and may lead to physical violence.
Most abused women report that it was the emotional and mental abuse that really affected them and their health.
Please take care of yourself and get strong to see that you don't deserve or need such an ugly influence in your life.
Peace.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Hi,
He sounds a bit of a bully. Is he trying to make you feel bad all the time, because if he is, it's genrally a sign of insecurity in himself.
Tell him to stop and dont do it again. If he does, I would finish with him permanant. You dont want a man that makes you feel bad. Life is hard enough without all that cr** to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I would be interested in what situation his insults occur and an example of what he would say.
It sounds like if it is completely unprovoked then he does it to get a reaction from you. He likes to wind you up and is setting out to upset you.
Does this sound accurate? Without knowing more it is difficult to say his reasons. Is it particular family member or friend that he choses to insult?
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