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writes:Ok,there's this guy i liked afew years ago who lived near me.He used to buy me a drink when he saw me,kept asking if i had a boyfriend,and once he wanted me to go to his house,for a drink,at least,i think that was why.Thats what he said anyway,but i couldnt go at the time.He used to live nearby,but now lives further away.He added me on a social networking site after he moved,he sent me the friend request.He has only spoken to me once on there though,and once on another website we found each other on.Anyway,i have sent him a few messages since we last spoke,just with general chat,but i have never received a reply.He talks to other girls who send him messages,he even replies straight away to some,and i cant even begin to explain how much this hurts.I havent seen him for afew years,but i have suggested us meeting since then,whenever he'd like to when he visits here,but he has never taken up the offer.I know he is going to be meeting up with a couple of people when he visits here again in a couple of weeks.I get depressed coz i feel like i had a missed opportunity with him,although i never knew for sure what he thought of me,and vice versa,and i get jealous of other girls that he talks to.Maybe he doesnt realize how much it hurts,or maybe he is just a jerk.What do you think ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): I can identify! I don’t know what this person’s problem is. We’ve known each other since we were in about sixth grade. We were both nice well-behaved girls and I think that is why we originally became friends.I was much more popular than she was. I had a prettier face, a better body, and a better personality. She may have been jealous. I don’t know. What I DO know is that she was constantly making passes at all my boyfriends, usually unsuccessfully. I continued my friendship with her because I never saw her as much of a threat.I think she had a chip on her shoulder because I was more popular in high school, because when I would visit her, she would purposefully be extremely rude and call and talk to a friend on the phone while I was there, or brag about how much money she spent on one of her other friends.Here we are years later, and occasionally, she’ll email me. I will send her an answer and then she doesn’t reply for a long time and then when she does, she writes, “I’m such a bad friend. I didn’t reply to your email for six months” or something like that. Okay, so I answer this email and the pattern continues. It isn’t that big of a deal, because we basically send two emails a year.Now I’m really beginning to wonder about her. I was on Facebook and I have quite a few people on there that I know. She knows some of the same people too. About a month ago, she joined Facebook. I didn’t invite her, but apparently, I was the first person she looked for when she joined, because I was the first person she sent a friend request to who accepted. I sent a message saying, “Thanks for the ad” and she has never answered back, but I noticed that she keeps sending a message to a person we have in common saying, “You are such a good friend”. (Because those messages show up on my homepage)I think that maybe it is time for me to quit answering her emails and treat her with the same consideration that she has treated me with.Next time she sends me an email, I am not going answer anymore. I have been available when she has reached out, but really, if she is going to invite me to be her friend on Facebook and then ignore me – what is the point?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I have read that he is coming up here this week.i even know where he might be going one the nights he is here.i wish i could speak to him in person and tell him how i feel,but i dont think he will meet me if i ask him.He is visiting my hometown though and going somewhere where i have been before anyway,although i dont go there regularly.i'd just like to get it off my mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): you are hurt over some dude you've never been out with? You sound lonely and I'm sure you'll find someone that will like you. He's not a jerk but he's definitely not interested.
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