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*emstonefromabove
writes:I was with this great guy but then we broke up due to a lot of rubbish, a couple months later we got back together cause we both still love each other.when we broke up we both had different partners.now that we're back together i hardly see him, once a week if im lucky, whenever hes free he chooses to spend time with his friends instead of me even if i have the same day off.today, i got the train somewhere and he was going ther with his mates to so i phoned him and was like where are ya il come see ya for 5 minutes. he made up a load of rubbish about getting of a stop early and walking the rest of the way. then after that hes turnt his phone off and is ignoring me i know he has credit and the phone is not dead. i think he may be cheating on me. why else would he not wanna see me and ignnore my phone calls and texts.but i cant bare the thought of my life without himwhat should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Well, you gotta hit reality here. Normally someone should follow the gut instinct and as how you describe how he treats you, he may either be not interested in you anymore AND/OR may be cheating on you. I'd say both. Well, you can't bare the thought of not being without him, but do you think he does the same? Do you seriously want to stay with someone who doesn't even want to see you or talk to you, and will probably only use you for his desires. You lived without him before, right, so why can't you now? A woman is strong by herself and you can be strong too. But if you continue like this with him he'll use you for his ends. He'll tear you up slowly and agonazingly till you can't bear the feeling just because you THOUGHT he was going to give the same thing you give him and because you tought your life was meaningless without him.You are a worthy person and it's incredibly dumb to stay someone who doesn't appreciate that value. Seriously, dump him, and although this sounds easier than done, you HAVE to do it. I'm pretty sure you will find someone who will appreciate you as this guy should. Don't give up hope.If you stay with him, you'll stay miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Your 18-21 years old?! You have so much life ahead of you.
I know full well its easier me sitting here saying that than actually going through it. I can't convince you to do anything. So I'll give you some questions to think about.
1. Would you rather spend your life with someone who you know won't cheat on you and makes you happy?!
2. Would you rather spend your life with him who may be cheating on you and limits the happiness you recieve?!
3. Would you rather be happy than questioning the only thing that prevents this from happening?!
4. Tying in with 3, would you rather go through a fortnight of pain to make a life time of happiness happen?!
Sorry I can't be of more help, keep us posted.
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