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writes:I’m on a dating site and recently I emailed a guy who I liked the sound of. He responded and we’ve been emailing ever since. After our first email exchange he hid his profile. I can still email him but his profile isn’t visible to anyone else on the website unless he contacts them. He can still look around but women can’t find him and email him.I know that it’s stupid to assume that this has anything to do with me, and there are a million reasons he hid his profile, but I’m so curious to know why he hid his profile right after we started talking (I guess it could be a coincidence but still). He’s been very polite so far, no inappropriate comments at all and he hasn’t asked me to meet him yet, we're just talking and taking things slow. We’re both looking for long term.Any thoughts? Men, what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): Maybe he'd like to just stay with you for the time being. Just enjoy the contact and maybe move it on eventually to talking on the phone then meeting. If he wants long-term he may like to take things slowly.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Well there are two schools of thought. The other posters do have a point. In fact he may have hidden his profile becuase he is so enamoured with you that he does not want any traffic from anyone else until you meet in person and can gauge whether you are for real. It could be a coincidence as well...That is option 1Now lets look at option 2...He meets you online, sets his profile on hide shortly after... he likes you...but why hide the profile? Maybe he wants no other prying eyes, or has a history with someone else on site...for if he was so enamored why would he want to remain on the site? If he wants to take things slow, why hide the profile, and close all his other options. Most guys would keep their profile open on a dating site, being that it is a DATING SITE?I am simply pointing out two different but equally valid POSSIBILITIES.We never really know who that person is at the other end of the screen, and online dating horror stories are pretty popular topics here. But on the other hand you could have struck a goldmine and found a true gentleman.My responses to most questions disqualify me from that category, but I understand that the elusive species known as a true gentleman exist...if only in the Artic or in books.Being that I have not really given you a good answer, and only pointed out two of what could be endless possibilities, I have an idea...maybe a novel one, but an idea nonetheless...why dont you just ask him?
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reader, Chaddles +, writes (18 June 2009):
Maybe he wants to see how you two go and not be pestered by other women.
Maybe he just wants to talk to YOu and YOU only.
That's very nice of him to think of you and just you. :3
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reader, Harry Castle  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 He could be so happy with you that he doesn't want others to see/contact him, but maybe not leave the site just yet - especially if he has paid a fee!
He also may not be looking around, just leaving his membership dormant.
Don't pay interest on worry, wait until you know the full story?
Harry.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (18 June 2009):
I'm not a man lol but it's possible he doesn't want to be juggling women. Maybe he likes the sound of you too so he's seeing what will happen there, without the distraction of other women messaging him too. Or maybe the timing is just a coincedence. Maybe you're right, maybe a guy will have better insight on this one. :)
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