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writes: My boyfriend hates my past. Even though it wasn't terrible, I mean most people would think it's mild (the worst I did was give oral sex to a friend once). So yeah, but it bothers him.We were arguing, and he told me how ugly and disgusting I am. He gave me details about my ugly body. Then I asked him if he thought there were hotter girls, and he named a couple of his classmates.I've always been insecure and hated my body. One of the reasons I was kind of promiscuous back then was to feel pretty and desired (ok, that's pathetic I know). I've never been one of those girls who are admired by guys or who get tons of attention.So now I'm totally un-confident, and feel extremely ugly, disgusting, fat, flabby, flat... I wish I was gorgeous. I know lots of gorgeous girls who have nice personalities and clean pasts too... so yeah...I feel ashamed and never want to have sex again. I want to learn how to live as a single woman, and live happily like that, without men. I hate thinking about the idea of being with someone who thinks his classmates are hotter. I hate the idea of them sharing my view about my body. I always though I was too critical of myself, but apparently not.Help please, what can I do? I'll dump him for sure, but my self image is still a wreck! Plus, to make matters worse, I know my personality isn't the best, I've always been on the shy, serious side. Other than that, my past, will it always be so important to guys? And my body, I've always wanted to feel like someone's most beautiful girl, but it seems impossible, I feel so disgusting, I wish I wasn't into relationships and was happily single...
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Dump this loser and take the time you need to find yourself and love yourself. It will be hard at first, but then you will find strength. Build your self-esteem and confidence by looking at the great qualities that you possess. It's not all about outer beauty. If you love yourself enough you would not put up with one word your boyfriend says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): No" try not to feel that, you are good as you are what ever happen before is just part of experince in life and you are not alone wid that. move on to your life and if your bf hates you for wat ever the reason is then forget him you deserve better one than him. remember you are good as you are.
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