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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey my bf hates me tkin 2 otha ppl on msn, myspace or bebo etc, i dnt see the problem with it, but he has a big stress about it. we agreed a couple of months ago that we should only tlk 2 each other but i found out he tlked 2others so i started again, he finds out n has a big stress at me, he totally denys tlkin 2others n this has coursed so many arguments. i like tlkin 2others so i havent stopped n he ses "fine tlk 2others ill jst be sad" n on msn if i tke mre thn 5secs to reply he goes in a stress and says tlk 2me mre mre etc he expects me 2tlk non stop 2him 4 over 7hours, we r in a long distance relationship... could this be why? am i bein totally unreasonable here? iv cut off all my friends 4him... help
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reader, AskEve +, writes (25 February 2007):
 He has too many insecurities and is frightened of losing you to someone else. Where's the trust here? I would advise you to reassure him, tell him he has nothing to worry about here and to trust you, after all, he talks to others and you trust him don't you?
Don't give up your friends but do be careful that you're not too flirty with the males, that doesn't do a thing for any boyfriend's ego and let him know you do have girlfriends on there too. If he still insists you talk with only him you might be better cooling things a bit with him.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 February 2007):
 DO NOT cut off your friends for any guy, even the one you end up marrying. Your friends can be there for you in a way no man ever can and you need to keep that in mind. This guy has no right to control you the way he does. The reason he's doing it is almost certainly because he feels insecure being far away from you but you need to stand up for yourself. Tell him you need your friends and that you will talk to whoever you like on msn. Reassure him that you love him and would never cheat on him but make it clear that you need your friends in your life too. Getting your friends back has to be a gradual process and won't happen overnight. You're going to have to make a huge effort to overcompensate for ignoring them all this time but your true friends will come back to you. Keep them close, they're priceless.
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