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writes:I've been going out with my bf for the last 2 and half years. He's amazing and great to me..but he has never said I love you to me. He has not told his parents about us either yet. I feel as if its been way too long, and I'm slowly starting to feel resentment towards him. When I bring up the issue with him, it always ends with "I'll say it when Im ready"..so how long should I be waiting for him?
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reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie +, writes (17 August 2009):
 I agree with rhythemandblues2, he's using you for what he can get out of you, he's comfortable where he's at with you and as soon as he gets a better offer he will be on his way and he won't look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): He might not be looking for a better offer. He just might not be sure what he wants right now and isn't sure what love really is. He might be the opposite of the many guys who will tell you that they love you on the 2nd date to get in your pants. If he were looking for a better offer then I would think that he could have found someone else in 2 1/2 years. I just asked my wife and she doesn't think that either one of us said that to the other for a long time when we were dating. It was 6 years before we decided to get married.
It is difficult to say why he hasn't introduced you to his parents. Perhaps his parents are like mine were at that age. They criticized every girlfriend who I had and disapproved of all of them. It was very obvious to the one who I later married.
I personally think that 6 months is too short a time for someone to decide if they really love someone. It is plenty of time to decide that you really like them and enjoy being with them, but love is not something that is easily realized. I think that too many people think they fall in love too easily and that is why there are so many divorces. They discover that it was not really love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): I agree with the other respondent. He is getting just enough from your relationship to stay put. Once he gets a better offer, he will be on his way.
Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): I don't think this relationship is going any where do you?
If a man hadn't told me he loved me within 6 months, I would have been out of there, personally.
It means something that he is not doing these things. Being ready is not an excuse. Does he not get along with his parents? Does he reserve "I love you" for the wedding day or the day he proposes? What are his views on that?
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